Is there something wrong with my 3 year old?

Cassandra - posted on 09/05/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter will be 3 on Monday. I am to the point where I am so overwhelmed and exhausted with her behavior. First off, she didn't speak much u till about 2. She was in an Early Intervention program and received speech therapy for a year. The program transitions the child into a Priority Pre-School at age 3 and she went in for an interview but I was told she would not qualify because she was not behind enough. Her pediatrician has always told us not to worry about her and that all kids develop at different rates. I disagree. Her speech is still extremely choppy and she doesn't form many sentences on her own. She repeats everything we ask and she is great at labeling things, such as cat or dog or white car, etc. She is horrible about listening and following directions. She just enrolled her in dance ass and soccer with kids her age and both classes we had to leave because she would not sit down and listening to the instructions the teacher was giving. She was more interested in running around the room and getting into people's purses and getting the soccer cones and balls out. If we correct her and try and re-direct her to the activity she has tantrums and cries. She is like this when we try and go to the grocery store or to the mall. I feel like I can't take her anywhere and she is missing out on so much. I am a stay at home mom and I feel like maybe she should be in a pre-school to help with more structure. She is behind in potty training and dressing herself. She is extremely hyperactive and slightly aggressive as well. I'm not sure if she has ADHD because she will sit and watch the iPad or a tv show. Any moms have kids like this? I need help.


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Sarah - posted on 09/05/2015




My opinion is that there is lack of discipline. She is acting like a normal 3 yr old that does not like being told "no" and you tend to give into that. If redirecting does not work then you do a time-out. You need to be VERY CONSISTENT AND FOLLOW THROUGH. To me it sounds like she is the one in control. If she does not listen then she gets a consequence for not listening. Avoiding the classes or the mall or the grocery store solves nothing. You need to teach her and require her to act a certain way. That may mean she sits in a time out spot at the mall or that she throws a tantrum at the grocery store, but you don't give in and let her have what she wants or just leave to avoid the situation.

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2015




I think you have a normal 3 year old little girl. Even your doctor has told you not to worry. All kids DO develop at different rates - you can disagree with that all you like, it's a fact. And your daughter sounds perfectly normal. Why are you looking for something wrong with her?

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