Just became a single mom after 12yrs. advice please

Tests - posted on 06/23/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




After 17yrs of marriage, 2 sons 11 n 12yrs. My husband left a week ago. And I don't know what to do? How do you be the father after 12yrs. I'm a very strong mother and person and I'm so scared I won't be able to be a good father for my sons. How does a mom become a father too?


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Gena - posted on 06/23/2014




I dont think you must be the father,the dad must be the father and stay in contact with his kids.

Jodi - posted on 06/23/2014




Why have you assumed that their father has left THEM. He clearly left you and your marriage, but isn't he still going to be in their lives?

Michele - posted on 06/23/2014




You don't become the father, you just be you "a good mom"! Don't try and take his place, leave that to him to fill or not and just be there for your kids. I hope your finances are in order, that he didn't leave you and the kids to struggle to pay bills and buy food but if he did as some do; then go get all the help your state offers including spousal and child support.
A lesson to live by; move forward and don't look back, if he did it once he will more than likely do it again.

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