Kids eating in bedrooms (against the rules)

Raye - posted on 10/30/2018 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My step-kids have had the rule of no food in their bedrooms since before I came into the picture 5 years ago. This has been an ongoing battle, as I keep finding food and wrappers in their rooms, in their laundry, etc. I've told them, if they happen to make a mistake and have food in their rooms, or have candy wrappers in their pockets from stuff they ate at school or whatever, that I just want them to throw the wrappers away in the kitchen. My step-daughter went as far as to get zip-lock bags to put the wrappers in (and hiding those in her room), instead of just throwing the wrappers away in the kitchen. My step-son even hid a tub of cake icing under his bed that was half-eaten when I found it. (Besides the bugs it could draw, and getting sick from all the sugar) The icing was supposed to be refrigerated after opening, so I'm worried about him getting sick from bacterial growth on the food.

We've tried different punishments and so far nothing seems to work. Any suggestions?

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Madeline - posted on 11/03/2018

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When I was young I did this exact thing to my parents. They told me I wouldn't have dinner if I had already eaten in my room -- this worked for me to stop. For my sister to stop, they tacked on more chores and duties to fix this.

Best of luck!

Michele - posted on 11/01/2018

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When yo do find the candy wrappers do you clean it up or make them do it. Maybe the need some kind of cleaning chore tacked on every time they don't get the wrapper in the garbage. Something gross and time consuming like cleaning round the toilets with an OLD toothbrush or washing all windows etc.

Might be time for them to do their own laundry while you supervise them cleaning out their own pockets

Raye - posted on 11/01/2018

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Stef,
If you think the rule is dumb, please provide why you think it should be changed. If you can't be helpful, please refrain from commenting.

Michele,
They are allowed some candy and sweets at home. We try to monitor their sugar intake, as their mother is bi-polar and it could be hereditary. Excessive sugar can bring out these traits faster in children. Also, the upstairs is carpeted, and the main floor is hardwood and tile, so crumbs and such are easier to clean on the main floor. The kids are slobs, and don't keep their rooms clean, so we don't want food ground into to carpet or drawing bugs. They also leave candy in their pants pockets, so we end up with melted gum and chocolate in the dryer. :(

They occasionally disregard other rules here and there. They are 11 and 13, so they are pushing their boundaries. But this one they consistently don't follow. If they happen to eat candy or chips or whatever in their rooms, all I ask is that they put the wrappers in the kitchen trash. But the wrappers end up under the bed, stashed in the closet, etc. They don't even use the trashcans in their room. If they did that, at least that would be progress.

Punishments have been: to lose dessert privileges for a week, not being in their room except for sleeping, lose access completely to their rooms (sleep in the guest room), and right now it's no candy at all in the house for a month. I threw out most of the candy in the house (including mine) and am checking their school bags when they get home.

I've asked them for their input on the rules... if they feel it's unfair (no), do they have other suggestions (no), can they explain why they keep doing this (no). I just don't know how to get through to them on this.

Michele - posted on 10/30/2018

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That is weird! Do they not get candy or sweets at home? Is this the only rule they don't follow? Also how old are they? What kind of consequences do they have for not following this rule?

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