kids growing up and moving out

Angela - posted on 07/11/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




would you make ur son move out as soon as he graduated from high school? how to get them to grow up and not depend on us so much...

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Jeanchiml - posted on 07/16/2011




thanku im not the only one. kid is 28yrs old still at home i feel sorry for her .other 4kids are gone.jeannie

Leigh - posted on 07/11/2009




No, but I would make him more responsible, independant & accountable for himself. Whats he going to do after finishing high school? What goals has he set for himself, what strategy's has he planned for, to help achieve these things. I'm learning that part of being a proactive parent, is to help our 'grown up' kids look at what they want to do with themselves, & to encourage & motivate them to do these things. I never had the priviledge of going to university, but my eldest is there now, & I've had to push & pull him the whole way through & keep positively saying, you can do this, you are worth this. I'm also doing this with my other children to help them 'find their life path'. Part of having them mature is to be financially responsible for themselves, so my boys all have part time jobs, just at McD's etc. They are 'for now jobs', but it's taught them alot about being in the workforce. Ultimately I want my kids to leave my home, & go out & enjoy what the world has to offer them, without relying on my husband or I to get them there. Enjoy the journey as well Angela, because before you know it, more than likely your boy will be gone!!

Martha - posted on 07/11/2009




No, I did not make any of my kids move out when they graduated from high school. I made sure they gained independence and worked and went to college, but I still gave them the safety net of living at home. My two sons have now gotten out on their own and my daughter has two more years of college to go. It has worked for us. It is a rough world out there and I think we owe our kids all the help we can give them.

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