kids not willing to get ready for school

Teri - posted on 04/15/2015 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I have a 12,8,5 years old and my 8 yr. Old has ADHD and autism and he don't want to go to school. He crys a lot cause he don't want to go. And my 5 yr old don't want to get up and get dressed for school. So I tried everything and nothing works. I need help cause it hurts to fight with them to get ready. I lost my mom whrlen I was young so I can't ask her and I never had that one person to trust as a mom. So please help!! I need to know what to do.

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Chana - posted on 04/15/2015

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It is the law that children go to school no parent wants to fight with their children every morning to go to school. They do get days off they are called weekends, holidays, ACT 80 days and summer vacation.

Chana - posted on 04/15/2015

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It helps to have a routine especially with a child with autism and also the 5 year old. Try getting them on a schedule with a routine for bedtime that could include getting a bath, snack, brushing teeth, getting out their clothes for the next morning, etc. Then you also need a morning routine so that they know what is going to happen. If your 5 year old doesn't want to get up maybe he needs to go to bed earlier, he might jut be tired. A morning routine would need to include things like getting up, making the bed, getting dressed, washing face, brushing teeth, getting breakfast, whatever they need to do in the morning. I don't know if you do this or if it will even help but I know keeping my girls in a routine/schedule helps and when we get off that schedule or routine they can get irritable. I would also want to know why the 8 year old doesn't want to go to school; is he having trouble, is he being bullied, etc. Just some thoughts and I hope this helps.

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Teri - posted on 04/15/2015

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We don't fight like that. I just keep telling her she needs to get dress or she will miss the bus but she said she don't care she thinks I should just drive her there so I try not to give in and make her and tell the bus driver they have to wait.

Teri - posted on 04/15/2015

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That's what I meant they do get those days off and it makes it worse to go back I agree kids do need that and we do too!! That's are time.

Chana - posted on 04/15/2015

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Sorry Teri I really don't know what else to tell you. I know routine is very important in my house and it seems like you have tried that and it isn't working. Maybe giving consequences for not getting up and ready for school without a fight. I don't know it might help. I would talk to the school again, if your son is being picked on they need to know what is going on.

Teri - posted on 04/15/2015

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I had a rooting for all my kids under 12 year old but it seems like its always a fight even if I get them in bed by 730 8 o'clock we still wake up and fight against me to get ready for school I don't know if it's just because they don't want to go school or if they just want to be home with me cuz I'm a stay home mom. and my 8 year old I talk to the school about what is going on with him and are saying that he is not being bullied in school but they were going to watch out for him. He does come home a lot saying that he is being picked on and I said something to the school they did nothing to help me he said that he has to make sure he tells them.you know he is autistic and ADHD so he's in a special needs class but he said a lot of the stuff goes on at recess and the school said the teachers watch for the kids and they're not seeing anything going on. I do iep meetings at the school with his teacher and the teacher said that he is struggling with his work in school maybe I should just move in different school

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