Kissing your babies?

Kami - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 240 moms have responded )

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my step-mom has neer had kids and the other day she started giving me crap for kissing my 8mo old son on his mouth, she kept saying that he was my son not my boyfriend and that i shoukdnt kiss him on his lips...... what do you think should i stop or ignore her????

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Francesca - posted on 01/20/2010

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I kiss my Ella all the time. On the lips. On the belly. On the cheeks. Kissing isn't sexual. Its a form of expressing love.



Actually, if you look at the evolution of kissing, it is suggested that kissing evolved in early humans when mothers would prechew their babies food and push it into their babies mouths with their tongue like how birds do it. And is also linked to when early human mothers would bring their babies close, cheek to cheek and hold them close to help cuddle them through the teething pain. So really kissing evolved because of mother and baby interactions, not male/female procreation rituals.



Ignore her. She sadly doesn't get it. And no matter how you define it, she will never understand. You do whatever it is that makes you and your family happy :)

Laila - posted on 01/20/2010

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Um ignore her...that is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard!!!! That is your child, of course you should be able to kiss him on the mouth...for crying out loud it's not like you're making out with him. That is RIDICULOUS!!! I still kiss my 10 year old Son and 7 Year old Daughter on the mouth..and so does their Father!

Charlie - posted on 01/20/2010

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PUH-LEASE, she has issues , i wouldn't worry about it , sounds like she has weird sexual hangups and as we all know as parents there is nothing sexual about kissing your child ,hell i still kiss my mum on the lips , just ignore her .

Janine - posted on 01/20/2010

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I'd ignore her completely! I have a nearly 3 year old son and 13 month old son and I kiss both of them on the lips, I still kiss my dad on the lips and I'm 30!! If she's never had kids then I feel sorry for her not having experienced such a wonderful bond with a child that makes the simple show of affection like a peck on the mouth totally normal! Sorry for venting slightly there!!

Danielle - posted on 01/20/2010

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there is NOTHING wrong with it! I kiss my princess' whole face,lol...i am forever giving her a "kissing'" attack at bedtime,lol..she thinks it is the funnest game ever,lol...i actually dot kiss my daughter on the lips..SHE KISSES ME,lol..she grabs my head with both her hands and gives me a kiss,lol...she is sooo adorable :P

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Melissa - posted on 01/22/2010

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Both of my princesses kiss ME on the lips. It is so completely normal. Tell your step mom to get a life and have a baby if there is still time, then I would like to see her refrain from kissing her own child. It can't be done (easily anyway!). They are just sooooo kissable. They were made that way on purpose....we are SUPPOSED to show them affection of all types, it is how they learn to trust and grow up well adjusted. So, maybe give your step mom a big kiss on the lips (I still kiss my parents on the lips).

Cynthia - posted on 01/22/2010

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It is unfortunate that she has a peculiar [not the choice word I wanted to say] mind. I don't belive you mentioned anything about "tounge"! Just ignore the peculiar ignorant woman he is your son not hers. I have and continue to kiss my babies on the lips...nothing wrong with it at all; unfortunately she is not an affectionate woman. Good luck and I hope I did not offend you but I HAD to comment!

Donna - posted on 01/22/2010

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I'm sorry your getting crap for that. You can let her know that kissing your baby allows you body to produce breastmilk that will protect him from anything exposed to. Your milk changes everyday for that reason. Also, kiss to mouth will only last so long, especially for boys. Before you know it, kissing and hugging Mom might be "embarrassing", and will stop when he is ready. In the meantime, enjoy that closeness with your baby. It is nurturing, and loving, DON'T STOP!

Lisa - posted on 01/22/2010

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Well its is certainly obvious that your step-mum has never had kids there is nothing wrong with a kiss on the lips i have 4 kids they all have kisses from there mum and they are fine just ignore her. Keep showing your lil man how much you love him lots of hugs and kisses

Brenda - posted on 01/22/2010

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that has to be hard to be around her if you kiss your baby and she feels that way- DONT stop though- maybe you should have your husband say something to her so she doesnt keep saying it and you wont have to think twice when she is around-- Good luck and keep giving him kisses!!

Georgia - posted on 01/22/2010

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I used to kiss my babies on the lips all the time. I stopped when they got older. Now they are 12, 13, 14, and 15. I would be lucky to get a hug these days. They have become so independent. I don't see anything wrong with it. Forget what your step-mom says. She's never had kids anyway. You have to raise your child the best way you see fit.

Esmeralda - posted on 01/22/2010

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Ignore her!!!! There is nothing wrong with what you're doing, I've always made it very clear to my kids on the do's and dont's of kissing mommy. For example, do kiss mommy as much as you wish, don't kiss mommy with an open mouth, and my kids totally understand. Your son will eventually stop letting you kiss him at a certain age but until then, I believe there is nothing wrong with kissing your child on his mouth.....as long as it's always with closed lips.

Rabecca - posted on 01/22/2010

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SOO STUPID !!! every mommy does that enjoy it while you can my son actaully got mad at me for giving him a hug and kissing his head when I dropped him off the other day while we were still in the car and not even close to the the school for anyone to see it was so uncool UGH he just turned 9 whats next I have to pretend I dont know him in stores ??? wishn I still had my sweet little cuddlely baby right about now

Theresa - posted on 01/22/2010

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I would let her know that he is your child, and tho you value her opinion you will choose how you show affection to him. I could not imagine not kissing my child on the mouth, boy or girl.

Morena - posted on 01/22/2010

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i think u should ignore her because come on for god's sake it is yr son and u are only showing him yr love i say continue

Punzelina - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think it is great! I kiss my 17 month old on the mouth and so does his dad. there is nothing wrong about it, only those who have never experienced the innocent and unconditional love of their child would think there was anything wrong with it. I would ignore her and really feel sorry for her that she never experienced that kind of love-bond that you have with your son.Good for you for maintaining a secure connection with your child!

Amy - posted on 01/22/2010

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I kiss my sons, ages 6 and 2 on the lips 100 times a day!!!!! That is the silliest thing I have ever heard. I also kiss my dad on the lips when I see him, its a quick peck but thats how we are. NEVER stop kissing your baby!!!! I would tell her to mind her own buisness, in a polite way of course!

Kerri - posted on 01/22/2010

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There is nothing wrong with kissing your children on the mouth, sounds like she has some issues her self and I would ignore her!!

Krista - posted on 01/22/2010

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I don't kiss my baby on the lips often, as I don't want to pass on germs (and also because I love eating peanut butter and don't want him to get any traces on his lips just yet - he's only 5 months old), but once in awhile, I just can't resist those gorgeous, kissy, rosebud little lips. Mwah! :) I don't kiss any other family members on the lips, though -- I'm just not a touchy-feely person for the most part.

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Growing up I always kissed on the lips with my sisters and brothers, now that I am older we don't anymore...I don't know if it's a growing up thing or not. WE kiss my baby on the lips...I don't recommend letting anyone do it though. My husband has scene cases where babies have had lip shaped breakouts of herpes on their cheeks.

Renee - posted on 01/22/2010

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I've always kissed my 3 babies on the lips. My son who is now 15 still comes and gives me a kiss on the lips when he leaves the house or goes to bed and is not uncomfortable doing it in a public place either. It melts my heart to know that he is not uncomfortable showing me public affection. I hope it lasts forever....lol.

Belinda - posted on 01/22/2010

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Iam surprised that so many posters are worried about passing on germs to your children through a kiss....geez, toddlers pick up anything off the floor and shove it in their mouths and this builds their immune systems up. Giving kisses should be all about showing our kids love, security and closeness...not at all how these wrong minded people think of it in a sexual conitation. Would you rather have a loving and loved child or a germ free anti-bacterial one...mmmmm...I know what I'm going to keep doing! MWAH!

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2010

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I dont think anyone would kiss their child while they were sick, its just a sign of affection and i know my baby loves it. I see your point though especially working in a hospital.

Andrea - posted on 01/22/2010

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Wow I'm a little shocked that its so acceptable...I'm not opposed to it because of how it comes across, if people have ill thoughts that's their problem..but what about the hygienic aspect..We are asymptomatic the first few days before and after a cold and flu not to mention other conditions that show no symptoms...I don't even like when people touch his lips...I try to avoid mouth to mouth contact with my son...I guess working in a hospital you see it all and how easily things are transmitted.....jmho

Beth - posted on 01/22/2010

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you kiss that baby every chance you get, they grow far too fast. you don't want him to think there is something shameful in a kiss. Children need all the love they can get.

Candice - posted on 01/22/2010

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OH MY GOD! Are you freakin kiddin me... I have never heard anything so stupid! Of course its ok to kiss YOUR baby on the mouth! how else do they learn what affection and kisses and hugs are! Its YOUR baby... not hers.. you have the right to raise your kid the way YOU want to! dont listen to her... she doesnt know what shes talking about... shes probably just trying to get a rise out of you...

Diane - posted on 01/22/2010

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I find it very funny that she can't figure out that you kiss your kids differently than you kiss your boyfriend/spouse. It's never a bad thing to show your children that you love them.

Jolene - posted on 01/22/2010

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I kissed all 5 of my babies on their mouths, that is how they learned to make that kissing sound and learn to kiss back. But as they got older they naturally would just kiss my cheek and I theirs. There is nothing wrong with mom or dad kissing their own children on the lips, when they are young. But I think it is wrong for grandmas and grandpas to. Just my opinion. Although my father in law was a kisser from the moment I met him until he passed away. Nothing morbid or gross about it just a quick peck on the lips.

Kate - posted on 01/22/2010

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Her response is just ignorance of the situation. I grew up only kissing on the cheek, and as a child didn't understand the kissing in the mouth, and wasn't comfortable with it. When I had my daughter, that changed quickly, I kiss her in the mouth and she to me as well, all the time. You just never know how you feel until you are faced with the situation. It is so easy for others to judged what they don't know. Tell her the old motto about" it is better to be thought dumb, than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt".

Andrea - posted on 01/22/2010

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WOW! she has a very distorted sense of parenthood. that blew my mind. Heck now. Kiss your kids. show them love. they won't grow up with weird ideas about it that way. I vote IGNORE! I still kiss my kids on the mouth. they are 5. It creeps me out that she would even think that..........I'm w/ Jessica. you aren't making out just a loving kiss

Barb - posted on 01/22/2010

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ost a reply!hey mum its yr baby if u wanna kiss him on the mouth u do it tell yr stepmum who hasnt had kids in a way that u dont cause friction yes its good 2 get advice from other people about babies but the end of day he is yr son hey best of luc

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Holly - posted on 01/22/2010

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I kiss my babies all the time. My one year old will just come up randomly and give me a kiss on the mouth...I think kids who are shown and who show love and affection in many ways turn out to be lovers not fighters....and don't have negative thoughts towards affection. You are his mommy and you have rights dammit! If you want to kiss your baby...do it! It shows him how much you love him. Forget about your miser mother and move on. She has no say really!

Belinda - posted on 01/22/2010

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I agree with Geneal, we kiss our little 2 year old on the lips all the time, (a quick peck )but I kiss my mum on the cheek because we are older. I suppose you gauge from your child when they are ready to change from lips to cheek and also it depends on your culture. Enjoy your kisses with your bub, it's her problem not yours xx!

Brenda - posted on 01/22/2010

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Ignore it. Before I had kids, I used to think it was a little weird to kiss your kids on the mouth, but I don't really know why I thought that. But then I had kids of my own and I do it all the time. I don't see anything wrong with it! I know my little boys will only let me kiss them for so long anyway.

Erin - posted on 01/22/2010

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I kiss my sons on the mouth and they're not harmed because of it. I see nothing wrong with it. If it really bothers you just don't do it in front of her (or do it when she's not looking).

Shelley - posted on 01/22/2010

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ignore!!!! Obviously she doesn't know what love is, affection is good for children, they need it, thrive on it, just teach him who he can kiss on the mouth.... Definitely... not one with such a narrow mind as Grandma !!!

Felicia - posted on 01/22/2010

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That has to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life! Stop kissing your kids?? Are you serious?! lol Kissing your son on his mouth is perfectly normal. Ignore her.

Abbie - posted on 01/22/2010

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how about kissing your baby's behind... i did it many times.

do not ignore her... most of the people do that everywhere in the world, all cultures...

very ancient mother love.

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I would IGNORE her. She doesn't know what she is talking about. Let her know that it is NONE of her business and that he is your son NOT her's. Babies need all the love and affection they can get especially @ 8 months old.

Joan - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son is only going to want to give Mama kisses for just so long before it's not cool anymore! No, I think it's fine. I give my son kisses on the mouth, and he loves it, too. It's natural. Besides, we're an affectionate family, with lots of hugging and pecks on the head, cheek, hand, nose, and, yes, mouth. As a result my son has no question about how much we love him.

Joan - posted on 01/22/2010

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My son is only going to want to give Mama kisses for just so long before it's not cool anymore! No, I think it's fine. I give my son kisses on the mouth, and he loves it, too. It's natural. Besides, we're an affectionate family, with lots of hugging and pecks on the head, cheek, hand, nose, and, yes, mouth. As a result my son has no question about how much we love him.

Cheri - posted on 01/22/2010

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I would totally agree with all of the posts especially with the reference to child/boyfriend, that is a sick refference in my opinion. However, strangely, just today my oldest Daughter told me that her childs dentist ,when she was very young and getting cavities for no reason,that people should not kiss babies on the lips because certain enzymes can transfer and if that person genetically has bad teeth it can transfer to the baby.Weird but true story.

Kristine - posted on 01/22/2010

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You need to do what you feel is right for your family. It's actually been researched & shown that kissing on the lips helps build immunity. I don't kiss my little ones on the lips b/c of all of the swine flu going around in our area but I used to kiss both of my parents on the lips (just a peck) when I was little. I wouldn't go around kissing everyone but between immediate family, it's just an expression of affection.



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Amy - posted on 01/22/2010

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Ignore her! I kiss my son on the lips all the time. What you are doing is perfectly normal and they are only babies once...so enjoy your time together!!!

Dana - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think you should tell her to mind her own business. He is your son and not hers. I don't see anything wrong with a mother kissing her child on the mouth. If your stepmom has a problem with it, the problem is hers and not yours.

Christel - posted on 01/22/2010

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What the ?!! dont stop kissing your little baby. I kiss my 9 mo son on the lips and give him lots of cuddles, and he loves the special mummy time.

Just listen to what you feel is right in your heart and ignore the ridiculous advice that some people try to give you.

Your child will eventually let you know when they get older and start to feel self-conscious about it. But if they are happy and so are you then go for it

Jacki - posted on 01/22/2010

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tell her to get over herself.....its a natural thing to kiss your baby especially at that age on the lips......as others have said I have seen it done with older children, a quick peck but on the lips.....OMG what are we coming too.....enjoy your baby xxxx

Charlene - posted on 01/22/2010

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Wow! That's really strange. There have been research studies done to show that kissing your kids and even sharing food with them can help immunize them against germs and sickness. Even when your baby starts eating solid foods, it's best to put it to your lips and test the temperature before feeding it to them because this transfers some of your germs to the food which has been proven to be very helpful in young children. I think you should ignore your stepmother! She's never had children and obviously doesn't know the love a mother shares with her babies! Good luck!

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