knowing what to do when your toddler has a spirited personality

Mpho - posted on 06/04/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




its rather hard when there's a lot of people in the house and each one has their different views as to how the toddler should be disciplined....please help on how I can find a better option that would please both parents plus child and grandparents


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Ev - posted on 06/07/2013




First, you can not please everyone with the choices you make for your family or yourself. Grandparents need to just sit back and let you handle things unless the child is in their care.

Second, a spirited child is such a gift. Find the thing that your child loves to play with and this is at any age; even things they like to do and encourage their interest in it. These children are creative to no end. Offer a lot of different things at different ages to let them express themselves and to grow and learn. But watch what they tend to like to do the most.

Third, As for discipline you need to find what works for your child. Natural consequences are those that happen when a kid does something and gets hurt such as throwing toys and one toy hits them in the head for example not to the point of a bad injury but bumps them more or less. Another natural consequence is when they climb and fall off the item, not listening to you and something happens they did not expect. If it is a danger to the child then use "NO" and tell them they can get hurt. Redirect their attention to other things. Teach them how to handle things. A lot of this will happen their entire lives though as they grow up and learn to use different things.

Jennifer - posted on 06/07/2013




I think a great form of discipline (depending on the child's age) is showing them the consequences of their actions. When my 3 year old son plays too roughly with his toys, I first ask him to stop, and if he doesn't I tell him that if he can't be gentle with his things that he can't have them and I take the toy away for the day and he usually plays more gently with it next time.

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