Kylee is 2 what is a good age to have another one

Tracy - posted on 11/23/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )




I got the baby blues as people say . I see my baby girl playing all by her self and I feel so bad that she dose not have anyone to play with me and my husband always play around about having another one but I think I am finally ready but I dont wanted Kylee to feel left out or hurt by a new baby . She is 2 is that a good age to try for another ?


Candice - posted on 11/23/2009




My fist and second children and 2 years and 3 months apart and they play well together. My son was a little rough with my daughter when she was little but quickly adapted. I am now 19 weeks pregnant and this one and my daughter will be 2 years and 9 months apart. She seems to understand a little more.

Tamara - posted on 11/23/2009




I am a single mom and my son and daughter are 11 months apart so i think its a perfect time to have another...your daughter will love to help u at that age my oldest always gives him his binky and bottle and tries to take his diaper off and change it lol so i think its perfect bc then you wont have to have a jealous sibbling..good luck

Kristi - posted on 11/23/2009




Hi Tracy,

Lots of good insight out there from other moms! My girls are 4 years apart (now almost six and two in March). I based a lot of my decision on how well I handled my first baby. It was a stressful experience for me in the beginning, and I had a late diagnosis of post-partum depression. While I was able to be proactive about that the second time around, and thankfully have not experienced those same symptoms of depression, it's still lots of hard work mentally and physically to bring up a young baby and give the older one the attention she needs and deserves (not to mention the husband!). Harder than I anticipated! I have been very grateful for the space in between. I was working through my 2nd pregnancy until she was 1 year old. I was absolutely flattened at the expense of childcare for 2 kids (near 24k a year). Thank goodness it didn't last long that way and I am able to be home with them now! My oldest daughter was very excited to have a sibling from the beginning, and her enthusiasm has surprisingly NEVER waned for a moment (I am knocking on wood!). She, like many kids, did lose her mind there for a little while at the start, but happily never targeted anything at the baby and it was a relatively short phase (a few months) of challenging behavior and tantrums. Most people I have talked with say the older ones do that for a little while in some way or another. I love that she really enjoys having a little sister to help with. AND, she is old enough to really help me with the younger one! Now that the baby is in the toddler phase, the older one can really play with her and enjoy her (and I don't have to supervise EVERY second). We all laugh at her antics and groan together at the challenges. My siblings and I were all 4 years apart (I'm the middle kid), and we are all really different, but we are close. I'm the only one with kids, so that sets me apart a lot. I especially look forward to not having an empty nest all at once, and the financial challenge of having to put more than one kid through college at one time (even though I expect them to earn a good portion of their own tuition). I would love to have more kids if I can muster up the energy, but I am going to probably wait until my youngest is 3 and a bit and see if I feel up to it. I agree that playgroups are a fun way to involve your baby with other kids. Can you spend some time with a mom who has a new baby and see if your daughter shows any interest? Maybe even babysit for someone? It might be a good way to see if you and the munchkin are ready for the adjustment. I find I am still carrying my toddler in a pack quite a bit and was thinking about babysitting for an infant before I realized that might be a cumbersome combo! I also saved lots of money breastfeeding and using cloth diapers! :) Enjoy your family!

Elizabeth - posted on 11/23/2009




hi tracy i know how u feel my daughter alice is 2 andi would really love another it is a good age i think i have been trying for the pass 8 months but no luck it is very depressing but hey i well keep trying god luck hope u get to have another 1 soon me too

Klarissa - posted on 11/23/2009





My brother and I are 3 years apart and we are the greatest of friends, but it does have to be when the timing is right, and when you both feel you are ready for another child. I am having my first one here soon, and I want to space mine out at least 3 years apart. And as the other mothers have stated it does depend on the child. Good luck!

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Dawn - posted on 06/07/2011




My boys are two years two four months apart. When they were little it was wonderful always playing together and wanting to be together. Now at 9 and 11 they fight all the time but that is being siblings. lol
I think every body should have at least two children so the child is never alone. I was an air force brat and we moved a lot so all i had was my older and younger brother to play with.

Jennifer - posted on 11/23/2009




yes it is! i had my 2nd baby boy when my other baby boy was just about to turn 2 a month and a half later!! now there 3 1/2 and the other 22 1/2 months!! and they love to play together!! dont get me wrong they do fight a lil and it is a lot of work when they are close in age!! but it is all worth it!!! :) go for it!!!

Zima - posted on 11/23/2009




my two oldest girls are 15 months apart and they are 10 and 9 now and still can't live without eachother(until they reach their teens of course!) And am actually expecting at the end of April, with my fourth, I have 2 1/2 years old as well. So I know about having a lonely "baby" at home and wanting someone for him to play with. I know it'll be a little hard on him for the first couple of months but he'll have a best friend for the rest of his life!

Pam - posted on 11/23/2009




All kids are different. Some love having a brother or sister close in age, some hate it. I was an only child and turned out OK despite no siblings--and I'll bet you and your hubby are great playmates! But you can get your daughter involved with other kids anyway--invite other children over and look for free kiddie movies, concerts, park programs etc. I wasn't prepared for my kids (3 years apart) to fight like cats and dogs, but it happens. Read up on introducing a new baby. Most kids are happy to greet the newcomer if the "baby" gets them a present when they come home. After that, good luck! So my answer is, no time is better than any other time, so it's up to you and your husband.

User - posted on 11/23/2009




Well mine are 2.5 yrs apart,my sisters are 3yrs apart they get along great as they are growin up together.I wouldnt have them no more than 3yrs apart.Me and my sister are 10yrs apart and we didn get close to one another till grown up yrs

Shannon - posted on 11/23/2009




Hello :-) I have 4 children, the oldest two are 3 years apart and they played very well with each other growing up, now that they are hitting the puberty stage it is like oil and water but that is just the normal sibling rivalry, my youngest two are 23 months apart and are so close. My son never felt left out when the new baby arrived, you can have your daughter help with little things like throwing away the dirty diapers or carrying different supplies for you when you go to give a bath. Its the right time for another when you feel ready, best of luck to you!

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A good time for another baby is when Mum and Dad *want* (and are able) to have another child.Kylee can feel left out or hurt by a new bub at any age or she can feel completely included and joyful at a younger sibling at any age too. Dont base your decision onanother child based on your current one because you will never know how they will react until it happens (and by then its too late to take it back!) Base it on *your* desire to have another child - do you want one and are you able to provide for another? answer yes then probably is a good time right now :)

Theresa - posted on 11/23/2009




I'm in the same boat. I think as soon as your lil one is potty trained. You don't want two babies in diapers..unless ur rich, but probably soon. I loved having all my siblings close in age!

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