LO hospitalized - coping with dependence

Cynthia - posted on 01/19/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )





My LO was diagnosed with bacterial meningitis at 4 days old. He was hospitalized for 3 weeks. During that time his vitals had to be checked at least every 2 hrs, he had antibiotics every 4hr. And a constant flow of nurses checking his IV and changing it spots every 48hrs.

After the 3 weeks, we commuted home treatment for 6 weeks. Thankfully he is cured.

The concern now is that he was unable to sleep on his back. He could only sleep on me. We were told this was because on the fact he was constantly touched wild being hospitalized.

He has trouble sleeping, he usually cries a lot. He also has lots of gas which I try to help him with. He can sometime sleep on his back, only after passing out on me and sleeping next to me.

Anyone had the same situation, any idea on ow to make him a big more independent? He is now 3 months old.


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Cynthia - posted on 01/20/2012




Thank you guys for the advice. When he was hospitalized I got to stay with him so he must have been n my arms at least 15hrs/day. So I did create part of this issue. He has a bassinet in our room but really the best I've been able to do is to lie him beside me. I guess I'm worried because I'm tired but also my DD is to this day a horrible sleeper and napper. Things got worse when I was at the hospital with her brother and her dad took over!

As per your advice , I will wait it out and enjoy e belly to belly while it last.

By the way I'm writing this while in bed with my Dh, dd, LO all snoring beside me... Oh as well as the cat.thankfully our dogs are not allowed in bedrooms :)

Danielle - posted on 01/19/2012




At three months old, considering what he's recently experienced, I would be lenient towards this issue.

With him in the hospital I can imagine that he went through a "Mommy withdrawal" and this could be an opportunity to reconnect that bond with him. What kind of touch has he experience at the hospital? Was it mainly medical, or did he receive a lot of cuddle from staff throughout the night?

If he were older, I would let him fall asleep, and then move him after a couple hours. Seeing as he is still so young, even without being hospitalized, that skin-to-skin is beneficial.

If it is an issue, move his crib beside your bed so he can still hear you breathe. In some instances, you can take off the side of the crib (the convertible cribs) and push the crib tightly to the bed to allow yourself to be touching him (even his hand) so he can feel that bond, and feel safe.

I would be more inclined to ween him off, instead of drastically changing what he's grown accustom too.

I can only imagine how hard it has been for you, and how emotionally and physically drained you feel.

Unfortunately, at three months old being independent isn't a necessity. If you have family available, you should ask them or maybe hire a babysitter for the afternoons so you can catch up on some sleep.

I would feel around 7-9 months is around the time where you can be more "aggressive" with independent sleep tactics. Of course, when I say aggressive I mean consistent, by means of a strict sleep schedule.

However, even at three months, a bedtime routine would still be very beneficial to helping him calm and transition to sleep.

Take it one day at a time. Remember, this isn't forever.. this is just right now.

I were in that situation, I would want as many cuddles as possible after such a scary ordeal.

Good luck in the future.

Erin - posted on 01/19/2012




If he has been sleeping on you, he may have gotten used to hearing your heartbeat again and finds that comforting. I would look into one of those baby white noise machines that has the sound of the human heartbeat. Also, I know at 3 months, children are usually outgrowing swaddling, but due to the contant touching, your son may still find swaddling comforting as well. I would try these during the day and see what works before going for night time.

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