Losing adult child

Machele - posted on 10/23/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Help any advice for me my has been gone for yr still cry for him tired of comment get over it


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Jacqui - posted on 06/02/2015




I also lost my adult child on December 23, 2014 ... he was 35. My grief seems to be changing and I have now gone through a first without him - his birthday. I thought I would be devastated but was actually very joy filled as I recalled his actual birth day and the memory of the joy I felt then. Two days later it was Mother's Day ... that was devastating. A very kind man on the elevator I was on wished all the women "happy Mother's Day" and I had to get off at the next floor. A tidal wave of emotion swept over me that caused me to just weep because of the overwhelming feeling of loss.
I find now that my feelings of grief when they hit have become more acute instead of the initial blur of emotion I felt at the beginning after my son's death. Because of that I am more aware of the "triggers" that will upset me and I choose to avoid them if possible. I am still grieving and I still cry every day for the loss of my son. The only people who truly understand what you are going through are people who have also experienced the loss of a child and we, even though it is very difficult, must understand that when comments are made such as "get over it", these people truly have no comprehension of the pain, anguish or devastation that we are feeling ... just as we didn't understand before we went through this loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please know that I truly do understand!

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