LOve after marriage...

Sara - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hi girls...!
I am a married person and sometimes the intensity of love towards my partner decreases when i am off the track like busy with my studies or job etc...How one can keep the relation good because you know men are like kids you don't give them attention they get annoyed and sometimes don't share their anger..any suggestions?


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Louise - posted on 03/29/2011




Just try and do something nice together every now and again. Tell your husband that you are really bogged down right now but you would like to book a few days a way where you can both just chill out and be husband and wife. He will have something to look forward to and know that you have not forgotten him. A few days away will refresh you both and put your relationship back on track.

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Do things together, go out on dates. Find a hobby you both enjoy. Let him know often how much you love him and appreciate all he does for you. The little things are important, make him a sandwich, thank him for washing the dishes or mowing the lawn. Treat him like a man and be sure to love him for the person that he is, not who you think he should be. Everyone gets caught up in their day to day lives and sometimes it can be hard to get back that "spark" But remember all of the reasons you fell in love with him and the reasons you chose to marry him. I have been married to my best friend for 13 years. We have 4 beautiful children and he is still my knight in shining armor because I let him be. Men really are pretty simple, give him love and respect (and yummy food... at least that works for my man lol). And he will do all he can for you. Sometimes you have to schedule time in to be together, have a regular date night that you don't break. When my kids were little I even scheduled time for intimacy, of course I didn't tell him that, he just thought I was a little firecracker some days. But I felt it was important for him to know that even with our crazy busy life I still put him first. Good luck and I'm sure you'll be fine.

Tyrae - posted on 03/28/2011




Every day think of a reason why you fell in love with him. It could be something small, or it could be something big. Maybe the first date, or the way he smiled at you. Even just that one thought a day could keep your love going.

Also, don't forget about communication. Arguing is going to happen no matter what (bottling it up inside will just cause resentment and more anger). When you do get in an argument make sure you tell him WHY you are angry.

Every night before bed, make sure you kiss goodnight and tell each other that you love one another. Even if you just had an argument, or are still angry. You never know when you won't be able to say it again.

Alyssa - posted on 03/28/2011




There will always be times when "love" feelings change. No-one ever has the same type of love feelings as when they first met. My love for my husband has changed so much in the years we have been together. It is still there, but sometimes it is a different kind of love.

Men, just like women, need to feel loved. Sometimes I have to remind myself to show how I feel so that he knows I am still on cue, even if my mind is busy on other things.

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