Love is hard

Itzel - posted on 12/03/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




What can i do to see my kids with a big smile on there face... Me and there dad got separated and know i have a boyfriend but hes actitude is supper strong he blames me for anything that goes wrong but my kids love him in a way skme time they cry and the boyfriend talk load and uses words that we had neverd used or hear is so hard for me at this point a lost everyghing because of him family dont talk to me at all as long as am with him lost attoney lost my job dont want to loose anything else help me please


Dove - posted on 12/03/2015




Time to end the relationship w/ your boyfriend to protect you and your kids from any further damage.

In the future... focus on your kids and THEIR well being over everything else. If you do date again... keep him away from knowing your kids until you get a real feel for the guy and some idea on whether or not the relationship is worth lasting (so... typically at least 6 months).

I've been single for 7.5 years and haven't dated since 2010... and the only reason my kids knew the guy was cuz they met him first.


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Michelle - posted on 12/03/2015




I also agree with the other ladies.
Your children come first all the time. Get away from him and concentrate on your children.

Jodi - posted on 12/03/2015




This man doesn't sound like he is worth it. Have some self respect and lose him.

Ev - posted on 12/03/2015




I have to agree with these ladies on this. There is no reason you have to have a man to survive in this world. The kids need you more than you need a man right now. You can make it without him but it takes time and work to make things how you want them. I have been single for 13 years plus. My reason? My kids were my main focus. My youngest is out of school now so I maybe might start dating or choice. But those kids need you. They suffer more than you might think they do. Attachment to a new person is hard on them when the new person has to go.

Raye - posted on 12/03/2015




Your boyfriend doesn't sound like the type of person that is good for your or your kids to be around. It's scary, but if he won't work on the problems in the relationship then you need to leave. You can find a new job. You can get through whatever you have to get through. You can rebuild relationships with your family. But you have to get away from this toxic guy.

In the future, I hope you will protect yourself and your kids by waiting to find the right man and waiting to see if the relationship will be healthy and stable before introducing him to your kids. Make better decisions. Your kids are counting on you.

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