Middle child problems?

Kimberly - posted on 02/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My "middle" child has become very lippy and very bad mannered as of late... I dont do the favoritism to any of the boys. The older boys go to school and my 2 soon to be 3 yr old stays home with mom and new puppy all day.. but my 7 yr old ( the middle child) has have some very angry out burst not just at school but at home also. Hes very argumentative and thinks he is right ALL the time I am at the end of my rope with him ive taken stuff away, grounded him, time outs.. I have done EVERYTHING i can think of.. any suggestions ?


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Kimberly - posted on 02/08/2012




Thank you both... I will try and set some special time aside for just him and I... And to answer you question Gwen yes i have rewarded good behavior.. I'm a big fan of that... I try to do things all together rather it be doggy park or park, walking , or just hanging out at the house and we all get up and play some wii dance games or race games ... again thanks guys im open to change as long as it benefits my boys !

Gwen - posted on 02/06/2012




Well, his plan worked; he's getting lots of your attention now !:)

The older boys get to do stuff he isn't old enough to do and the youngest gets mom's attention all day long. Not to mention a new puppy. That's a lot of competition for your attention. Instead of punishment, have you tried rewarding good behavior, or setting aside some "date time" for the 2 of you? Maybe he just needs some special attention to show that he can feel safe enough and loved to start opening up about what he's really angry about.

I am a middle child, too.

Erin - posted on 02/04/2012




Maybe he feels like the almost 3 year old has the best deal getting to stay home with you and a new puppy. His angry outbursts could be a reaction to feelings of jealousy he doesn't know how to put into words. I would suggest trying to take a quiet moment before he gets angry and ask him to try to tell you what he feels during his outbursts. Then have him tell you something special that he would like to do Then set a goal with him as to how many days he has to go without a huge outburst to earn it. Good luck and hope this helps.

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