Military wife

Beth - posted on 08/13/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Nervous about my husbamd's deploment for 4 months. . I know it may not seem long to some but I feel like I'm going to be overwhelmed.


Cate - posted on 08/13/2013




Depending on the location, daily email may be possible, and Skype seems to be popular and available weekly. Attend any and all spouse support functions! The military has dealt with this all along, and they have great suggestions for those who have never experienced this, based on extensive past experience of others. Give him a batch of post cards, ask him to send one every day. Shop together for your first CARE package, put it in the mail/military post AS SOON AS you get his address. Add some things that he did NOT shop for but will appreciate: current photos.
Find a friend who has experienced this before. Try not to express worry or overwhelm him with home issues while he's away. Create code words/phrases for expressing important events or feelings that he can email to you w/o having to reveal too much. i.e. if he's moving to another post, he's 'going to a show,' 'changing theaters.' If he misses you, 'how is Mom?' If he's just too tired to write/contact, 'it's all good.' You can totally have fun with this; favorite TV characters & scenarios you are both familiar with... Big Bang Theory comes to mind. ;)
Most important? Find something to occupy your time so you don't hang on the wait for the next contact from him. But make it something you can stop doing when he gets home and wants time with you. Know that he will simply want to rest for the first few days, so let him sleep or spend his time alone at first. If you have pets, board them for his arrival. Bring them home one at a time after a couple of days.

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