Moms with a son in prison

Denise - posted on 07/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




How do you handle your child mine is 22 being sentenced to prison even though you raised them the best you could as a single mom


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Chet - posted on 07/10/2014




1. Understand that no parent has complete control over what their child becomes. You have input, but you can only do this so much. Many, many forces are at play. Very likely, you kept your son from doing a lot worse than he has.

2. A person isn't washed up at 22. The teens and twenties are typically decades where people make mistakes, even mistakes that land them in prison, but they can learn from those mistakes and move on. Encourage your son to take advantage of programs in prison that will help him to turn his life around. Don't pressure him. Don't tell him what to do, but let him know that he has options and you haven't given up on him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/10/2014




You raised him, and he chose to take on a lifestyle that would end him up incarcerated. You didn't incarcerate him, nor did you force him to make the poor choices that he made (I'm fairly certain you didn't anyway).

Know that you have to absolve yourself of feeling guilty when your adult kid makes a stupid choice. There should be support groups in your area for parents of incarcerated individuals. If not, I'd get some counseling, so that you can quit blaming yourself for your adult kid's choices.

Hang in there. Stay strong.

Jacqueline - posted on 07/10/2014




That must be devastating for you, I am so sorry! No mother deserves that! I'm sure that you raised your child the best you could, and then something along the way changed in her/him because the influence of society. There's a high probability it wasn't under your influence or provocation. It is not your fault. Good luck!

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