Mother in law! very sneaky in provoking me. Any ideas?

Ola - posted on 12/26/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi moms,

I need your help. I have had few issues with my mother in law. On surface, she is nice, invites us sometimes for dinner ...etc. Real, she is trying so much to control me and interfere in how I'm bringing up my baby. My husband is very very weak with her. He pretends that he is strong but he actually fears her so much! it's unbelievable, it's like a child!
Before, she tried a couple of times to confront me however she is now more sneaky and throws in provoking comments. I spoke with my husband many times before and he used to side with her. I exploded and asked for divorce and we are now seeing a couple's counselor.

Now, the issue is that I really don't think I will continue with this marriage on the long run. Things are slightly better with him now, but I know that he is a Mommy's boy. I'm now afraid of messing up my relationship with them and in case of divorce, they will turn my daughter's life to hell to revenge me. how can I maintain boundaries and not get them excluded so that they don't feel bitter about it and bully my daughter later on? I don't have family here at all. they are all in my home country. He is British and has family here. Any advice,


Ashley - posted on 12/26/2012




dont throw your marriage away because of someone else. ignore her as much as possible. you cant expect your husband to do the same, because she is his mom, and the only mom he will ever have, and well lets face it, nobody lives forever. i have posted about my mother in law on here, because i was also at my breaking point, so i know how mother in laws can be. but i would never even consider leaving my husband over it. but my husband does stand up to his mom, so my situation is a little differant, but it still isnt worth walking away from a marriage. i know when i said my vows, i took them very seriously, and should not be ruined by other people. keep going to counseling, and maybe get a counselor for just yourself. good luck.

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