mother-inlaw problem

Naz - posted on 12/12/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




im a first time mum my daughter is going to be year old in 3 weeks. I was planning to do a small birthday party at home my family and invite my husbands family (even though they have never spoken to me) My husband told me ther not coming ther making ther own party for my daughter a week after mine and dont want me or anyone from my family there! The problem is the mother inlaw and her daughter they just hate me they have never spoken to me i have been with her son for 7 years and married 2 years ago they have hated me since day one they refused to come to there sons wedding and did not attend because of me. They have never givin me a chance to speak to them on why they hate me. They avoid me. When i gave birth non of them visited they always told my husband to bring lilone to ther house which is 1 hour drive! Lilone is nearly 1 and not even once hav they travel to see her! They expect my hubby to come with baby to see them with out me being there! Im not allowed in there house a few accasions i stood outside while hubby took lilone to see them. And now there planning there on party for my daughter with out me being there! I told my hubby im only doing 1 party not 2 and i have no problem with them attending mine or if they want to do party they have to invite me and my family. My hubby is saying they still doing party with out me. Im so stressed i dont feel like doing a bday for my daughter now buy feel so bad its her 1st bday my husbands is to into taking her to his mums rather then organising with me! anyone have the same problem with inlaws ? Or any advise on wat todo 😔


Beatrice - posted on 12/12/2013




Why dont you do a little birthday party with your family and friends, and you can feel that you have still given a little somthing into her first birthday, as remember, they are loveable and cute, but i suggested small because the baby wont remember what cake they got, and they wont even know its their birthday, but still buy a nice little cake, as what are you going to eat! And if your mother in law hates you, there's no chance that shes probably just going tolike you just like that! So if it makes her happy, let her do her own party, as you cant chuck her out, as she is part of your family. Anyway let you have your own party, and her have hers, and uou can use that day to buy clothes for the baby, a stress free relaxing day, or just how you want it to be! Plus its not like you have done somthing wrong, you are doing somthing right, as you are keeping every one happy, i hope you use my idea! And my friend had a mother in law like this! And she did exsacly this, and used the day to do some yoga, and this relases stress, and calms the body, and their two familys got along fine, as she was keeping her mother in law happy and her by allowing them both to do thier own thing. Just remember, try this, as if you hated the person that married your son or daughter, and they took away your privilage of the part hers grandchild, you would probably be furious! I hope your life is stress free for now, and you find a way to work things out! Your a great mum :) Bea ( im twelve)

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