My 11 year old daughter won't go to bed at bedtime.

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi everyone, my 11 year old daughter won't go to bed at bedtime.
I feel she has a reasonable bedtime she is expected to be in bed at 9:00pm
And lights out at 9:30pm she can read in bed for that half hour. When I tell her it's bedtime
She has this Bratty attitude and says her friends don't have a bed time, and that she doesn't need a bedtime. I don't know how to get her in bed. Help please b


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Dove - posted on 12/09/2014




How does she do in the morning? Does she function during the school day?

My 13 year old also has an 8pm bedtime (has to wake up at 5:15), but it's not often that she can actually get in bed by that time.... even if she tries. I honestly don't worry about when she does or does not make it IN bed... because she is the one that still has to get up in the morning and go to school. Yes, sometimes there is sleeping in class (lots of kids do this due to the crazy early bus schedule)... but as long as her grades don't suffer... there isn't much else 'I' can do about it.

If you don't want to let her just deal w/ the consequences of staying up on her own and she is giving you attitude about it.... take away 15 minutes of something that matters to her (computer time, TV time, whatever works) for every 5 minutes past bedtime that she is up or 10-15 minutes for every sassy remark. See if that helps any.

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2014




Well you are more lenient than me. My 13yo has an 8pm bedtime!
We did say to our 13yo that he can chose when he goes to bed but if I have to call him more than once to get up in the morning then it's back to our set bedtime. Needless to say, he can't even get up in the morning when he goes to bed at 8 so he still gets told when to go to bed.
I would let her know that you don't care what everyone else does, she is in your house so it's your rules. I have always had this here so my children don't bother about comparing our rules to others.

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