My 12-year-old and wants makeup/nude pics!!!!

Rowan - posted on 01/28/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I don't know what to do now. She wants to wear makeup, and I'm surprised that her school doesn't have rules against makeup. I said no because its bad for her skin and no dressing inaproppriately in what she calls a "grown up" way. I explained to her that nude pics on social media and dressing that way in real life can cause consequences. I showed her an article online about a 15-year-old teen who got arrested after sending photos of herself naked to a bunch of 15 & 16 year old boys. My daughter pointed out that she's not at that age yet so that she can't get arrested. I told her that anyone can get arrested for child pornography. It's not just child porn, there are many predators out there waiting to play a little game with young teenagers and preteens. She went on a pen pal exchange site and met someone who claimed to be 16! She was pretending to be 15 and created a fake e-mail. She said that its just a boy from the USA. I said "Listen, what if he says he's 16, but he's actually a man writing to multiple kids throughout the world and offering to meet them in person?!". She's not allowed on the Internet unless its homework, and I always check on what she is doing in her room once in a while. I caught her messing around on my laptop in the middle of the night! I grounded her, took her electronics away, made her write paragraphs about why being a "sexy kid" is NOT cool and can face police punishments, signed her up for a program about online safety for ages 9-16. I spoke to the teacher about her wearing makeup, and I'm paying unexpected visits to her school without her knowing to see if she's wearing "makeup" or her whole "sexy kid is cool" idea.


Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015




You need to talk to the school about getting her an appointment with the school counsellor or school nurse. This kind of behaviour often indicates other issues. A 12 year old who is interested in sending nude pictures has clear emotional and self-esteem issues and this needs to be addressed. Punishing her for this kind of behaviour is not going to help address the underlying issues. By all means, she should not be permitted her phone (not just the internet) or internet access without strict supervision, but she also needs to be having some sort of counselling and support from outside the home.

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