my 12 year old want a facebook account,

Sarah - posted on 08/05/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have told her she isnt allowed untill 14 but all her friends have it at school and she seems to be left out plzz tell me what to do she is socially a loser


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Jodi - posted on 08/06/2013




I allowed my son to have a FB account at 12....on the basis that I must have the password, he cannot change the password and I can log in on his FB whenever I choose. I am also on his friends list.

Here's the thing. Kids are pretty technology savvy. If you don't allow it, they will most probably do it anyway through a friend's phone or computer. Many kids do that (I am a high school teacher, so I see it ALL the time). If you say no, they will often go behind your back. Sometimes agreeing to it with certain limitations in place is a safer option for your child.

I will admit, I'd rather the age limit be 18 - children are not socially adept enough to truly be able to use social media in a way that is constructive. However, with ALL the FB fights, bullying and everything else I know goes on amongst groups at school, I can honestly say that the parents are clearly NOT checking their children's accounts or staying on top of their interactions.

Anyway, just another perspective for you to think about.

Ev - posted on 08/05/2013




I actually wish that they had not allowed anyone under the age of 18 on that thing. Its a pain in the seat of the pants for kids. Not only bullying but the so called "socializing" that they do not is not social. Its not even face to face. Are you going to be one of those parents that go ahead and do this because the other kids parents allowed it or the mom that says, "I am not the other parents and you are not the other kids." She is not going to be a social outcast because she is not allowed on that thing. My son was put on it by his dad and step mom without consulting me. I was furious but it was too late. I am glad he had the sense then and now to not get into the various things other teens get into. He gets on, plays some of the games, and then gets off...of course he gets on sometimes and talks to me via the chat option.

The end game is this: Are you going to let your kid make the rules or are you going to make them?

Michelle - posted on 08/05/2013




Don't call your child a loser, the kids at school are cruel enough without you adding to it.
The rules with FB is at least 13 years of age so you can tell her not for another year.

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