my 14 year old daughter to sleep over at 13 year old boys house

Jennifer - posted on 05/07/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )




My 14 year old daughter has a boy whom she calls her brother that she goes to school with. She is very close to his mother and goes to church with them on Sundays. It all started because of the fact that they lived a ways away and his mother assured us that they are only friends(act just like brother and sister). They are going to move to Oklahoma in 6 weeks and she wants to go with them.


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Sloan - posted on 05/09/2015




I think she may be a little ahead of her time here... this is certainly a decision she can make when she's older (18+) but she is a teenager and as has been previously stated, you never know what is REALLY going on. Now-a-days we have to be more careful than ever with the liberty that we give our children. I think maybe you should propose a family vacation in the near future so you can all hang out in his new hometown.

Jennifer - posted on 05/08/2015




I agree and so would most or any one would agree. My daughter is very sensitive about the subject . She is very close to him and his mother . His mother claims they really are like siblings yet I know my daughter. She is not even being honest with herself about how she feels. I am not looking forward to the next few years of parenting. I know that I pray a lot and try to not say more or argue with her. Not getting angry is best. I try to listen and not say or repeat or raise my voice anything negative.

Ev - posted on 05/07/2015




I have to agree with the others. This is inviting a lot of trouble. Do you know for a fact that they will be supervised well even for a day time visit? Do you want to have your daughter come home and tell you she is pregnant? Overnights for boys and girls this age is not a great idea.

Dove - posted on 05/07/2015




And... what? They are moving to Oklahoma... If they are close friends, of course she is going to want to go w/ him... but that's not going to happen because her HOME and FAMILY are w/ you. There is nothing at all wrong w/ her having a friendship w/ a boy... as long as they are not left alone and unsupervised together (small groups or something), but I don't care what type of relationship they have... being completely alone or having sleepovers alone at 13 and 14 is not appropriate... period.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2015




Are you considering letting your daughter move with them or just have a sleep over? Your post is a bit misleading.

Raye - posted on 05/07/2015




When I was in 7th grade, there was a boy that kind of looked like me, so everyone called us brother and sister. We even called ourselves brother and sister. We flirted a little bit, but my feelings for him were just as a friend. One day he called me and was masturbating on the phone. End of friendship. You don't know what's in this boy's head. Don't allow your daughter to be put in a position where she could be taken advantage of.

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