My 16 year old is overweight and she doesn't want to do nothing

Anna - posted on 08/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 16 year old daughter is overweight (a lot). I remember myself being overweight when I was 11 or 12 bun then by 13 I growth a lot and all just "melted". I thought it will be the same story with my daughter, but, since 12 she growth 1" but a lot different direction. When I realize my child has an overweight problem I gently tried to change all bad habits...but there are 2 problems: my daughter now 16 doesn't want exercise, doesn't want move at all (just sitting or laying down in her bed) and she has a computer (games) addiction - no outside social life AT ALL! I don't remember when was the last time someone visit her or she go out. She is always mad at me if I try to talk. Yes, she has been seeing several concealers but in her opinion all of them a "gey". How I can help her?


Sarah - posted on 08/27/2013




My suggestions would be to start a walking routine that the both of you do together. Pick a time that works each is if the time can be consistent. Start out walking just 20 to 30 minutes. Walk must be a brisk walk though.....something where you are having to get your heart rate up for. When you walk....walk like you are running pumping your arms as you would if you were running. This helps work the upper body and also gives you more speed. Do this 5-6 days a week. If one week has less or you can't make the full 20-30 minutes that is what you can, but also try to stick to the 5-6 days 20-30 minutes. When you walk it is OK for her to put her headset on and just listen to music as she walks.....The main thing right now is getting her walking.....she does not have to talk to you while you walk. I personally like walking to music better.....I get a better pace. Set up a reward system for hitting certain goals. Rewards should be healthy no food and no video games. Rewards could be a new walking shirt, or a night out bowling (something that keeps you moving)....but it is also a reward, so it needs to be something that she feels is worth putting forth the effort to get it. I would not ask her if she wanted to do the you know the response you will get. Just make that your new routine in the day. I know at 16 yrs. that is hard to do, but try to have a certain time that TV, computer, etc. has to be off....When she gets back from the walk and wants to do that that is fine.....again right now you just want to get her walking. Over time things will change. If you stick with a walking routine she will start to have more energy and the other things (video games) will seem less important to her.


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Michelle - posted on 08/28/2013




You also need to limit her technology time. Only provide healthy food in the house so she doesn't overeat or binge on junk food.

Anna - posted on 08/28/2013




Thank you so much for your advice. I am glad you understand how hard is just to do one thing...make my daughter just live the house and walk. I tried this before and never worked, but I forgot about one thing..headset. Sounds silly but I expected the walking will be our thing so we could talk. Now when I am reading and thinking it should be HER time to be in the better place. I know she doesn't hate me but it feels that way and I am sure she knows I love her but most of the time I am her enemy in her mind.
I am going to walk, starts today... and I hope she will joy me tonight...

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