My 16 year old son is disrespectful and will not follow any rules!!

Shonda - posted on 02/21/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 16 year old is completely out of control when it comes to being respectful! He tells me he is going to do something and never asks and if I say no he calls me names and tells me I never do anything for him. He comes and goes as he wants when he wants. We just had a huge blow out and I basically told him he could move out if he did not want to listen and follow our rules. I have 3 other kids I can't have him acting like this around them. He is constantly telling me how inadequate of a parent and provider I am and how I owe him this and owe him that when I am lucky to get food on the table for everyone. He makes me cry at least once a week? I am at my witts end, I just don't know how to bring him back from this phase of entitlement and disrespect and none of the rules apply to him stage! I don't want him to grow up to be an obnoxious horrible adult and I think if he continues down this path he will be!


Jodi - posted on 02/22/2016




Not sure what the laws are where you live, but you can't exactly just tell a minor to move out.

However, you are not obligated to provide him anything but the bare necessities. Maybe a mattress, pillow and blanket in his room. Basic clothing. Basic food. That's what he'd be getting from me. If he wants more than that, well, that's his problem. You owe him nothing more than that. Anything else, you are no longer the provider.

And stop letting him see that it bothers you when he tells you that you are an inadequate parent. Since when has a 16 year old child's opinion on parenting been an authority on the issue?

What seems to be happening here is that there are no consequences for his actions. What are you doing when he does these things?


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April - posted on 02/23/2016




My son just turned 15. I got him were it hurts when he started calling me name's an cussing me out. I would take his phone. We lived with his grandmother(his father's mom) His father abandoned him over a year ago. We stay with her cause I'm going through a divorce. He told his grandmother that he would do better in school if i wasn't around. So i got kicked out. With no where to go i couldn't take him with me. I haven't seen him in a month. Whenever i call or message him he says he's busy. Last night he told me to f off. That he doesn't want anything to do with me. I wish my momma had told me how painful parenthood is. She told it would be hard but nothing like this.
Im really sorry for your pain of trying to raise a confident adjusted man. I'll stay tuned to for up dates an idea's. God hold our children close to you as they try to find who they are. Amen

Ev - posted on 02/22/2016




What bothers me not only is he ruling the roost but how it got to be so bad and he seems to think he knows what he needs and does not need...what have been consequences for his actions and behavior?

Raye - posted on 02/22/2016




I agree with Jodi. Rules and consequences. Don't be a door mat and allow the disrespectful behavior.

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