My 17 year old daughter is out of control

Cory Bryan - posted on 11/06/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello, I am a dad first of all but it seems like this is a great forum for some advice. So let me begin by telling you the story. My name is Cory. I have a 17 year old daughter who will be 18 in two weeks. For three years she has been dating a loser. I recently found out that this boy is a drug user, has no drivers license at 19, never graduated from school and doesn't have a job. I also found out about 6 months ago that my daughter would go to her friends to sleep over and then end up at his house spending the nights there instead of at her friends. She has been smoking pot and cigarettes. She has stolen for 3 years from my wife (her step mother) her little brother and step brother as well. Every time we would bust her with the stuff she stole she would make up stories that she was set up with that stuff so she would get into trouble. Hard to believe from a kid that lies about every rule she breaks. I confronted her about the drugs and staying at her boyfriends like I said, about 6 months ago. Since then, she calls me every name in the book, says things like I chose my wife over her, and that I am dead to her. She also says mean things to her little brother like she will stab him in his sleep. The other night she had a melt down and she left. I will not let her come home because she is going to do the same thing. She says she wants to be on her own and live with her boyfriend. So I am cutting her off. She broker her cell phone during her melt down by throwing it through her bedroom window in wich she broke as well. I am worried sick about her. She is a great student and has a very high grade point average. She is still going to school and graduates in two months. Can anyone give me any advice on this? I really feel like she hates all of us and would rather her go find her happiness if she can but at the same time I wonder if I am doing the right thing. Is there a right thing?


Raye - posted on 11/06/2015




If you're enforcing the rules and enacting consequences then you're doing right. Teenagers don't see it as helpful at the time, but will probably come to appreciate it later. I know I did. My mom and I got in some nasty fights and I ran away three times. But I respect her for being tough. We have a good relationship now.

If she's 18 in a couple weeks, I'm not sure there's much you can do. She will legally be an adult. And she will have to learn the hard way the consequences for her actions.

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