My 17 year old will be leaving for college in August and I feel my heart breaking already. I find myself having periods of sadness and crying lately. I have been chalking it up to menapause conjoined with watching my youngest and last get his diploma. I'm a single mother and have pretty much raised them myself. I am very close to them both and still cannot believe that so much time has gone by so quickly. I don't want to be a sappy, crying mother these next couple of months as it makes him sad because I am sad. Uggg! My oldest goes to college and lives at home so I did not quite have this anxiety with him. I know this is very normal. My youngest and I have been arguing as well. I wonder if that is a way of letting go as well?


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Sarah - posted on 04/19/2017




I would not ask a child to not go away to college because I would be lonely. Certainly, if college cannot be afforded, then other options can be considered but this child has already been accepted and plans to depart. My second child will be leaving for school in August as well. My eldest is at West Point and we hardly see him at all anymore. Sure, I miss him and I will miss my daughter as well, but this is their time to launch. Molly worked very hard to secure an enormous athletic/academic scholarship to a wonderful university. To hold her back would be unfair.

Amy - posted on 04/17/2017




If it's that sad for you, you could always have him go to college while living at home like your other son. College is expensive, and you probably are helping to pay for it after all. Don't feel bad, it's your money and you're the one who raised him.

Michelle - posted on 04/15/2017




This is what you have raised them to do.
Find yourself a hobby and let him find his way.

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