My 17 yr old left and went with her dad

Mary - posted on 04/13/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter went to stay with her dad. But now says she may want to live there. How do I communicate with her that I love her and to believe in me. She gets more freedom there, here well I am a single mom with one income. There two incomes and not to much supervision. I don't want to lose her. I feel like I am.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2015




By the age of 17, most kids in a custody situation are given choice of residence. Its perfectly normal for the kid to want to live with the other parent. You're not losing her, no more than your ex 'lost' her when you split.

Raye - posted on 04/13/2015




Does your ex also want her to live there, or is she just trying to upset you? She's 17, and you have to cut the apron strings at some point. At 18 she will be a legal adult, and can do what she wants with her life. But right now, you should talk this out with your daughter and the ex, and make your decision from that. You may not like her being gone, but it will happen at some point anyway, and that doesn't mean you "lose" her. She will always be your daughter. You should keep the lines of communication open, and let her know that you're still there for her.

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