My 3 year old son keeps hurting his 11 month old brother

Sarah - posted on 08/16/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




my 3 year old son keeps hurting his 11 month old brother and laughing when he does it. I don't know what to do it's getting me really down


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/16/2015




What are you doing when he does this? He has to continually be corrected, as this is abusive behaviour. I take it he has some unresolved jealousy about this sibling, and it may be beneficial to try some child therapy with him.

Sibling jealousy is fairly normal, but usually ends before the baby is a year old.

He's exhibiting his upset at not being your center of attention. Totally normal, but needs to be fixed. How has the baby affected you spending some one on one time with him each day? You need to be able to do that with him. It is hugely important that you do.

When my youngest was born, we'd already put a plan in place. The eldest got to spend 'special' time with mom and dad, respectively. Dad usually took him on errands, or to the shop for the afternoon to 'work' on cars. I usually took him with me to market, or just to the park for an hour. But we did it every day. Plus, we really put the idea into his head that he would be a huge help with baby, and that we really needed him to be that help, which he embraced.

Good luck

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