My 3 year old son won't listen to me and it's really getting me down:(

Natasha Louise - posted on 01/07/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 3 year old is a total nightmare and has been for last 2 years, he doesn't listen to a word I say, he paddys at everything I can't leave the house or visit friends because he just creates where ever we go! Only place we go is nursery, 10 mins away, but can sometimes take 50 mins due to him going in garden running off, and throwing his self on floor, it's so embarrassing!! People keep saying he'll grow out of it, but that doesn't help how I'm feeling now, I don't want to go doctors and say how depressed I'm feeling because I'm a mum I should be coping:( he's fine for everyone else, some advice would be great . Thanks tasha 24 x


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Ev - posted on 01/07/2014




As Sarah said, you need to set up boundaries for him. He is also pushing your buttons to see what he can get away with and from the sounds of it he is doing an excellent job of it. At the same time you are letting him do this too. So he thinks that he can do what he wants, how he wants, and when he wants. When you go places and he starts to handle things that he should not you need to take it from him, tell him no, and redirect to something he can have. When you take him to nursery and he is running off in the garden, you need to teach him to hold a hand and stay there, because if you were next to a road and he did this he would be hit by a car. When he tosses a fit on the floor, ignore it but still keep an eye on him. Do not let him know you are but this way he is safe. If you are in public and he does this, pick him up and take him home. You got to be consistent and follow through. Do not do things half way or just say you are going to do it and then not. He will take that as permission to keep on. You should have started this when he was one.

Sarah - posted on 01/07/2014




Sounds like you need to set some boundaries and then follow through with consequences. At 2 and 3 yrs old they are little and exploring their world and their boundaries. If you don't set boundaries and have consequences when boundaries are broken then he is not going to listen to you. You have to follow through and be consistent.

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