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My 30 yr old daughter was failed by the healthcare system in our area. she died 4 weeks ago from tb menegitis

Eve - posted on 12/08/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm crying all the time. I lost my daughter. She was 30 yrs old. She was a beautiful, caring, vibrant young woman. She had crohns diease and diabetes. She suffered from tb and it went to her brain. Our family can't function. I went to a bereavement group. It really didn't do much good. can I ever get over the pain? please respond.

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Eve - posted on 12/08/2014

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Thanks Sarah, You sound like a very sweet person. Thanks for the advice. I need all the help I can get. This is really tough

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2014

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I am so sorry for your loss, it is difficult to lose a child and the holiday season makes it even harder. I can suggest from my own experience, give yourself a little time and then try the group again. When I first went to my grief group, I was so angry that any of those people had the nerve to pat my hand and tell me they knew how I felt! And then ten minutes later were laughing and joking over coffee! I felt sure they did not know how I felt because I was positive I would never laugh again.
It took time, and lots of crying, yelling, and more crying....but one day I did laugh again. You will too. The pain will never be gone entirely, at least for me 5 years later, i do still hurt. But, it becomes a different pain, a bittersweet pain. I don't know what your beliefs are, but knowing that my parents are with my children in heaven, helps me when I feel at my worst. I pray that God will ease your sorrows.

Raye - posted on 12/08/2014

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It seems the most unnatural thing for a parent to lose their child, no matter what age they are. There's really not much anyone can say to bring you and your family peace. The pain will lessen over time, but I know hearing that does not help it go away.

It sounds like your daughter had several ailments that would have caused her to suffer in this life. She is in a better place now.

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