My 5 Year old scared of "everything", what do I do?

Shannon - posted on 06/25/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 4 year old son is scared of everything!! It has gotten to the point where he doesnt like to go to the washroom alone in our house when we are in the next room. I make him go and then he runs back out of breath and scared. I have to make him go back and wash his hands and flush the toilet and he has a fit. He is also scared to go to his room in the middle of the day. If he goes, the lights have to be on and the door has to be open, even with that...he is still scared. He will get his 3 year old sister to come with him to get toys from the basement, there is no chance he will go on his own. He is also scared of tornados and the wind. Once we went to a park on a windy day and he had a fit in the car because he didnt want to get out because it was too windy and there may be a tornado. I explained to him that there are never tornados here and he will be fine at the park. I forced him to come out of the car and he ends up having a good time. He is also scared of ferris wheels and mary go rounds. If we are at an amusement park and want to go on the marry go round as a family he has a complete fit and I force him to go on. Once he is on the ride he says he loves it and isnt scared anymore. I dont know if im doing the right thing by forcing him to do all of these things he is scared of. I just thought this may be the way to get him over these silly little fears. I know he has an amazing imagination...but I am worried that these fears will turn into anxiety when he is older. Has anyone had to deal with a child who has many fears like this? and if so, what did you do to help them? Im lost at this point and feel like such a mean mother at times....


Laura - posted on 07/30/2012




I have the same problem with my 5 year old. Scared of the dark, wont go to the bathroom alone down the hall, sleep in his own room. Is also scared of rides, but is fine once he goes one. Has anything worked for you?

Jacqy - posted on 12/10/2012




My son(4 yr old) is scared of string and stray hairs. His fathers house has snakes and scorpions and for some reason he's associated this with string and hair. It's to the point where he's fighting me physically to get out of the bath if he sees anything floating in the water, which with toddler hands and feet is nearly every time. I am to the point where I am starting to make him face it too, because it seems like the more I leave it alone, the worse it gets and it's starting to be unsafe. He nearly fell in the bath tonight trying to get out, something has to change and the only thing I can think of is to help him face his fears by putting my arm around him and explaining to him while he's screaming that nothing is going to hurt him and sticking with it until he stops screaming and we can talk about it. It's exhausting, but seeing him be so afraid is too stressful for me, I can't imagine what it must be like for him.


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Becs - posted on 04/13/2016




Shannon did he grow out of it? Find something to help? My 5year old is exact the same and I'm loosing my mind

Louise - posted on 06/26/2012




Any idea what has sparked this anxiety off? Has he seen some news or something about the damage tornados have done. You have to be so careful what is on the tv with little eyes and ears listening. I dont watch any normal tv with my daughter in the room. It is always pre school. When she did see some normal tv (in a tv store) she was most upset about the images of men shooting each other. Just start from scratch and reassure him every day.

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