My 5 year old son is out of control and i need help to control his behavior!

Whitney - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 5 year old son is out of CONTROL and i need help controling his behavior. he yells at me when he doesnt get his way, throws fits calls me names tells me he hates me and it needs to stop. He just started school and he doesnt like it he walks around the classroom doesnt want to do his work and just wants to play. I have a 4 year old son and i dont want that behavior passed down. I dont know what to do normally my son is a good boy but this past year he has become out of control. Please help!!!!


Ariana - posted on 10/11/2012




Start a behavioral log. So for one or two weeks start writing down every behavior he has, what time it happened, the situation around it etc. You may see certain patterns (like when or in certain situations he acts out). If this is the case you may be better prepared for it. You can also start a plan for specific behaviors.

If he yells at you tell him you do not allow people to speak to you this way and he needs to go to his room to calm down. I would also work with him on calming himself down (not during when he's upset but when he's calm). So teach him to take deep breaths, count to ten, say that he's angry, punch a pillow, whatever it is he needs to do to calm down. This won't work immediately but if he starts to throw a fit or yell you can try to couch him on calming techniques. Even if this doesn't work and you have to send him to his room you can wait until he's calm and ask him what he should do next time he starts to get angry and have him practice.

So if he yelled 'I hate you' have him practice saying 'I'm really angry!' and taking some deep breaths. It's ok for him to be upset, it's not ok for him to yell at you.

Get him a tutor. Sometimes kids act out at school because they find the work difficult and it's easier to avoid it then confront hard work. If nothing else it will make sure he doesn't fall behind and give him some extra attention.

Try to have some 'special time' with him. Maybe 20 minutes a day. It can help with relationships a lot to just spend 20 minutes totally doing something he wants to do. If nothing else it will show him that you love him no matter how he acts and even if you're spending a lot of time disciplining him right now, it's not because you're mad at him, but because you want him to act nicer.

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