My 5 yr old refuses to buckle! It's like a phobia of the buckle... Help!!!

Lisa - posted on 01/27/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )




I'm new to this. We need help! My 5 yr old & I spend 20 mins in the car b4 goin somewhere & about 20 mins when we get somewhere, she has some 'touch issues' like w clothing, she seems to have a phobia of the buckle if I work w her sometimes I can get her buckled in the booster but she has to have her clothes off so nothing is touching her skin & she's half laying down and the buckle is so loose it's not properly legal but it's my compromise to get from A to B. This somewhat sums it up, I'm reaching out to see if anyone has any problems remotely similar. I feel I've tried everything, every angle. I'll take any advice but would love to hear similar stories?!?


Sylvia - posted on 01/27/2012




Well, if I were you I'd start using alternative means of transportation for a while. You could be spending those 40 minutes getting where you're going instead of driving each other bananas with the seatbelt.

But also, I agree with Amy and Belinda that this sounds like some kind of sensory processing disorder, or maybe just (well, not "just"...) high sensitivity. (There's a great book called The Highly Sensitive Child that I found helpful when my DD was younger.) Seeing an OT could be really helpful.

Amy - posted on 01/27/2012




Sorry had to tend the kids and instead of closing out I accidentally hit post! Here is a link about how it's often misdiagnosed and what can be done to treat it.

Although my son has never officially been diagnosed he distributes a lot of the characteristics and his teacher is keeping an eye on him at school. When you talked about the clothes and the touch it reminded me of my son although he's not to that extreme because he knows clothes aren't optional when he leaves the house. I hope the link helps and at least gives you a starting point so you can talk to her teacher or pediatrician.


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Lisa - posted on 02/09/2012




My daughter is going to be seen by some specialists, it's definitely more to this. The dr said she needs meds, this is not just in the car. A police officer I spoke to the other day said to have her analyzed, I don't mind her crying at all, it's the anxiety attack and vomiting and fear and her screaming that she can't breathe that gets me.

Sarah - posted on 01/30/2012




Both my kids have gone through periods not liking their car seats, but I'd rather have them buckled securely and safely in their seats and cry then have them be happy and get in a car accident and have them die. Car seats are not about being happy, they're about protecting your child's life.

Belinda - posted on 01/27/2012




It does sound like she has some type of sensory issue. This is nothing to panic about, but it might really help her (and you) to see an Occupational Therapist who specializes in Sensory disorders. The problem with the seat belt is a safety issue. THe OT can help with exercises and activities to partially normalise her sensory system and give you ideas to make the buckling more palatable to her.

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