My 6 & 3 year old's behaviour are getting out of control.

Lyndsey - posted on 04/29/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 2 eldest daughters used to be very well behaved. Recently they have started to be extremely cheeky and a major handful. They don't listen to anything they are asked. If I tell them something they just say so what or no etc. I'm not sure what to do to curb this behaviour. Would love some advice from other mums in a similer situation. Thank you xx


Jenifer - posted on 04/29/2009




take away privlages, ex. well I was going to take you to Mcdonalds but as you aren't listening and behaving that is out. You were going to play with Christy today but since your behavior isn't what I would like it to be I'm afraid that's impossible. After missing out a few times, they start to listen. I should know I have eight children! The one that really brings it home is to have two adults and when you stop at Mcdonalds take turns going in to eat, but make them wait in the car with the Other adult since their behavior cost them this privilage. And remember it may seem cruel, but it is even worse to let them run you over, they need boundries to help them feel safe and loved. You'll be surprised at how quickly they start to listen when it's their fun stuff on the line, and these things are privlages not rights. Everything they have you've given them so it is your right to police this stuff, they need to earn privlages. I'm a horrible marshmellow when it cames to the kids I adore them, but even I found it easy to stick to given the results.


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Anita - posted on 04/29/2009




you could try ignoring them, i have a 8 year old he can be a bit ratty as well i some times ignore him when he gets cheeky or mucks up. kids mostly do that for attention, even though you give them heaps or they are just looking for a reaction from you

User - posted on 04/29/2009




Lyndsey. We had plenty of the same with our 3 sons years ago. If you can, it's time to pray with someone else you trust and then move in on ways and means when they come back from school/nursery. Outside the front door say something like: 'We're going into our safe home and today we can cook/do clay/have sandpit.OK? Wait for the yes. Right. Put on calming classical music, refuse TV for a while until things improve. If you can exhaust them in a playground every day, climb trees, then excellent. They've only picked up what too many children are doing and also what they're feeling about the state of the world without realising that. But no way can you be blackmailed. Remind them how plenty of children in other countries have to put up with awful conditions.

Chrissie - posted on 04/29/2009




At the beginning of the year I had similar problems with my 4 year old son. I bought a book titled 'You do't need to smack' by Glen Stenhouse. It's got lots of simple strategies for dealing with misbehaviour. I've read it, followed a lot of the ideas and now my son is listening much better, doing more of what I ask him and is generally being a sweet little boy that doesn't want to be naughty.

Hope this helps


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