My 7 year old cries because he doesn't want to do homework alone.

Kosha - posted on 02/01/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




My seven year old son cries because he wants me to sit with him at the dinner table during homework. I don't feel this is necessary. I feel he needs to learn independance. If he needs help I will help him but I'm not sure if I need to sit there with him just to make him comfortable. PLEASE HELP!


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/01/2016




Honestly, at this age, you don't want to do anything that will make homework seem 'horrible' to him, so it is probably a good idea, if you can, to sit with him while he does it. Let him explain things to you, ask him interactive questions about his assignments. Make it an enjoyable experience, rather than a chore.

Trust me on this: If you make it a chore, or he sees it as something he doesn't enjoy doing, he's only going to get more obstinate about it, rather than live with it, and do what needs to be done. Eventually, (in about 8 years or so) you'll be back wondering why he's not turning in his homework, or why he's not doing as well in classes as you'd like to see...and it usually leads back to earlier in schooling when they were either pushed to be 'perfect', or felt homework was hard, and wanted help they didn't receive (or THINK they didn't receive...)

Best to make it a positive experience now, rather than fight it later. Personal experience here...unfortunately...


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Jodi - posted on 02/01/2016




I don't think this is an unreasonable request by your son. He is probably not only wanting your help, but possibly seeking a connection with you, especially as he has been gone all day at school. He's 7. There's plenty of time for him to find independence.

Kosha - posted on 02/01/2016




Oh wow, thanks alot! I really appreciate the advice. I will definitely change my tune about homework.

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