My 7 year old does not respect me. She does not listen without putting up a fight.


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Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2012




My daughter is already doing that sometimes. Its going to be a long road for me.

America3437 - posted on 12/04/2012




Fun age isn't it. It is only just beginning my dear. This is the easy part wait till your dealing with an eye rolling door slamming 14 yr! Pick and choose your battles is my best advice. Some things in life are just not worth argueing about.

Jodi - posted on 12/03/2012




Sounds like a normal 7 year old girl to me......7 year old LOVES to argue the toss. In fact, just the other day, *she* had the audacity to turn around to *me* and say "Why do you ALWAYS have to argue with me". LMAO.

Anyway, basically, you have to pick your battles. I am a parent who will often allow my children to present their case if they disagree with a decision, but I always hold the ability to say yes or no, and once I do, that's it. Presenting their case does not involve whining or arguing, if they do that, the answer is no. When something is not negotiable, I make it clear it is not negotiable. Depending on the situation, if they argue over the things that are not negotiable, or argue once the decision is clearly made, then they will have consequences (eg, argue over the time you go to bed, you go earlier tomorrow night, argue over having to leave the park earlier, tomorrow we don't go, etc).

That's not to say she doesn't still try it on, but it doesn't drag out like it used to. I also use my tone of voice to get my message across. My kids know just by the tone of my voice (and no, I am not talking yelling, I don't yell), when decision is final and arguments are not going to help.

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2012




What is she doing? Do you follow through with threatened punishments or back down eventually? We need a bit more information on what she does and what you have tried.

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