My 8 year old and insomnia

Cassandra - posted on 02/06/2018 ( 7 moms have responded )

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About a month and a half ago my dad and my son found my grandmother. She was no longer alive. Though my son did not see the body, he seems to have issues since the incident. He did see all the commotion with the police, ambulance, fire fighters, and the funeral home. Oh and having to see the look on my father's face when he realized my grandmother was no longer with us. I also just got health insurance and having to find a doctor. His main issue is that he can't sleep. I am just curious as to what you all would do for your child if they were going through this situation. I am at a loss. He is starting to have a hard time functioning, but until I can get him to see the doctor and a therapist, I need ideas of how to help him. Thanks to all. :)

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Leslie - posted on 02/21/2018

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How are things now? Were you able to get your son to talk to you about his pictures? I can't believe there's not a counselor of some sort at his school -- I'd ask for sure! :-) I hope he's sleeping better now and talking about what happened....

Leslie - posted on 02/14/2018

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That's great that he's drawing pictures -- that helps him get it out. Ask him to show you the pictures and tell you about what he drew, that will be good too (even though it will be hard for you to see and hear...) Is there a counselor at school he could see until you can find one for him?

Leslie - posted on 02/07/2018

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Regardless of not seeing the body it sounds like he saw enough to traumatize and scare him. I'd talk to him about his feelings and why he thinks he can't sleep - is he scared? Is he having dreams or nightmares about it? Is he afraid he will die if he falls asleep? All of those are pretty normal for an 8 year old after what happened. Reassure him that great-grandma died because she was old and he should be fine.. Help him too to share memories of her - he might feel that he can't talk about her (or what happened) because he thinks others will get upset with him for talking about it. You might have him try to draw you pictures of how he's feeling and what he saw or play things out with blocks, a doll house or whatever he enjoys playing with. Paying attention to what he says or draws as he's playing/drawing can give you some good clues as to how he's reacting to what happened.

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Cassandra - posted on 03/02/2018

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We are moving, he does seem to be sleeping better. I did try to talk to him, but some things seem like they are hard to talk about with him. Like he shuts down, or it is a touchy subject with him. Maybe he just needed time to heal from seeing all of the excitement. He does say he has nightmares sometimes. So he has to turn on the TV to get himself back to sleep. I am hoping that the move will help. We will be closer to my parents.

Cassandra - posted on 02/14/2018

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I'm not sure. Though I would think his teacher would have mentioned it if there was. She was the one to discover the issue. I did talk to him a little bit today. It may just take some time for me to get him to open up about it. He is usually so quiet and never complains about anything. Except recently about him sleeping. When talking about anything that could be wrong, it is like he shuts down and just can't seem to find the words. Hopefully I can get him to say something about it.

Cassandra - posted on 02/13/2018

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He has been drawing pictures at school. His teacher called and told me all about it. That some of the pictures he draws are pretty graphic. They worry her, and they also worry me. Not sure if it is normal for an 8 year old to be drawing stuff like that. He has started sleeping better. But as of right now he sleeps in the living room.

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