My adult daughter moved 19 hrs away

Stephanieriker - posted on 04/13/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter who was going through a divorce moved to texas with both grandbabies I've taken care of since they were born to work things out with her husband just up and left her without money or heat so her dad and I have taken care of her and kids for 5 mths she been gone a mth and no word from her grieving mom and grandma


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2016




I'll say it again. Your daughter is adulting. Get over it. She's chosen to work things out with her husband, and she's chosen to take her children with her to do so.

Since you never actually said they were in the process of divorcing, I'm seeing this as "he was a jackass, he's apologized, and they've decided to work THROUGH the problem, rather than pop for a divorce, broken home, and other issues".

I'd think you'd be proud of that.

Leslie - posted on 04/13/2016




So to make it clear, she moved to texas, took her kids with her and you are feeling upset because you think the husband is a jerk for leaving her high and dry and then she runs back to him? am I correct?

I understand how upset you feel. If I were in your situation I would feel sad as well.

A divorce is a very tough time in ones life. You were there for your daughter when she needed it most and that is a wonderful thing. She may feel as if she can work things out with her husband, I would back off for now, and when you do talk to her, dont judge her or make her feel bad. She already feels terrible. Be there for her, emotionally. You may not agree with her actions, but you can also make the decision that if her husband leaves her high and dry again, you wont be there to help her pick things up, and leave it at that. Set boundaries for yourself. You can be supportive while setting boundaries so you avoid getting hurt. Ultimately you have no control over what she decides to do, so love her, love your grand children and by choosing to forgive (for yourself) you will heal and become stronger so you can make decisions that will be better for you and your husband, and you can just guide your daughter in the right direction. good luck!

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