My adult daughter won't talk to me or let me see my grandchildren

Retha - posted on 11/02/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )




I don't understand why she is doing this. I think there is something wrong with her and she won't get any help. She says there is nothing wrong with her. Other members of the family agree she has a problem but she won't listen to anyone. I took her on vacation with me in June 2011 in the hopes that we could have a better relationship. (Since her dad died in 2003 she has blamed herself and me for his death.) On the way back from our vacation, I got a little lost and she just went nuts! She started cursing me and calling me filthy vile names. Screaming at me that I was stupid. I stopped the car at a gas station and told her I wasn't going to drive any more until she calmed down. She tried to get the keys out of my hand by digging her nails into my flesh and cursing at me again and so I hit her to get her to stop. She then screamed and dug her nails into my face and scratched me all the way down my face. I hit her again to stop her. She was like a raging maniac and i was terrified. I grabbed my cell phone and called 911. She started screaming, No! Mama No!. She got out of the car and ran off. The police couldn't find her. But they wanted to arrest her for elder abuse. They told me to go home and leave her. So I did. I left her 200 miles from home in a strange town.
When she did get back home she filed a protective order against me!! She showed up in court and told multiple lies about me. The judge told us to stay away from each other for 30 days. We did and when we had to go back, she didn't show up. So the judge dismissed the case. I don't understand. She won't talk to me, I can't see the kids. She also won't let any of the family who speaks to her ex-husband see the kids either. She didn't speak to her sister because her sister didn't like her new boyfriend. She blackmailed her. And her sister went for it so she could see the kids. I don't know what is wrong with her. Is she bi-polar? Is she just crazy? What can i do? I've tried everything. Oklahoma has no provisions for any grandparents rights or I would take HER to court. I tried love, I've tried anger, I've tried reasoning with her. Everyone says leave her alone, she'll come around but I don't think so.
I need some advice, please. I can't go on like this much longer

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