My almost six year old son keeps peeing all over the place.

Jess - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




I dont know if hes dong it to get attention from us, due to the fact that i have twins. Is become and every day thing and i dont know what to do anymore. He pees every where. If any of you have dealt with this and overcome it please let me know what you did. I cant take anymore of this behavior and i want to deal with it in a different way other than grounding. Thanks


Maggie - posted on 01/14/2010




Ignore it. Help him clean up the mess and go on about your business like nothing happened. (yes! he can go get a towel or mop and wipe up pee! he's six years old!) The more you acknowledge it the more he will seek attention in that way.

You should also begin to reward him for good behaviour. If he does something like sharing with his siblings or helping clean up then make a big deal about it. Tell him how happy it makes you and how proud you are. Discipline isn't just about punishing bad behaviour but reinforcing good behaviour as well.

Take some time out to spend just with him so he won't feel so jealous or left out. I would imagine that being the "third wheel" isn't easy. I don't know how old the twins are but maybe you could let him stay up a little later after they go to bed and it could be special time to play games or read or do projects with JUST him.

Darlene - posted on 01/14/2010




My son, who is 6 also, would pee on the bathroom floor intentionally as well. I finally got to the point where I told him if he did it again I would make him clean it up. Sure enough he pee'd on the floor again, and when I found it it was dried. I called him in and gave him a rag and soapy water and made him clean the floor. I did not talk to him while he was doing it, he would talk to me and in a very calm voice I just said, clean up your mess over and over. After he was done I gave him a bath with no toys, by the time he was all done he had no more play time and it was time for bed. Since then he has never done it again.

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Jennifer - posted on 08/21/2013




Did you ever figure out a solution? Did he grow out of it?
We also just had twins. Our son is five and has ADHD that he is medicated for. He has taken this terrible habit lately and he pees all over the place in his room, on his bed, on his name it. We have been trying to fix it by giving him more attention but he is getting plenty of attention now. (We hired a nanny so we could spend more time with him) Recently he peed on his 3 year old sister's face while she was sleeping! I don't know how to punish that?! Anything work for you?

Jess - posted on 01/15/2010




Thank you for all your suggestions and comments. I thought I was the only one out there with this problem. I will try what you guys suggested and see what happens. Thanks again :)

Lisa - posted on 01/14/2010




I have to agree that having him clean up his mess is the better option here. Rewarding him for doing what he's supposed to do (pee in the toilet) is not going to cut it. I would sit him down and explain that it is unacceptable behavior and if it happens again, he will clean up his own mess. Like Darlene said, don't talk to him to the bathroom hand him the rag and tell him to clean it up and just watch. Don't say another word. Good luck!

Theresa - posted on 01/14/2010




Make him clean it up. If he doesn't clean it up well enough, make him redo it. He will eventually get tired of having to clean it up. I would guess it is an attention thing. You may want to bring it up with his doc just to be sure. Children with autism for example sometimes will do things like that. However at 6 there would be a lot of other signs of autism too. Just be sure there's no medical condition.

Blanca - posted on 01/14/2010




Have you taken him to the doctor to see if there is a problem? If not I would set up a "reward calendar". I would talk to him and let him know the reward plan ( x amount of days no accident you get this reward) and make up a list of rewards he can choose from. I would get a calendar and stickers and mark the reward day, everyday that he doesn't have an accident let him put a sticker on the calendar at the end of the week or how ever many days you choose he will get the reward. You can start of with two days, then add and eventually go up to a month. Maybe the rewards should involve spending time with only you (if possible) if he maybe jealous of the twins.

Alison - posted on 01/14/2010




Did you just have twins? I have not been through this, but it absolutely sounds like he is acting out, although he may not be doing it on purpose. Maybe try talking to him, make sure he knows that he is special to you. Do whatever you can to spend one on one time with him. Get him involved in taking care of the twins. Praise him every chance you have to make him feel like an important part of the family. Don't make a big deal out of the accidents. He will adapt eventually.

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