My Baby

Chitika - posted on 08/20/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 4 year old is still crying when she gets on the bus for school what should i do?


Ange - posted on 08/20/2013




First, make sure there's not a problem on the bus, that she's not afraid of some situation there. Or at school, come to that. No matter what she tells you, make sure you stay calm, accept what she tells you, don't indicate you think she's making anything up. If there were a problem with someone, if she knows a name, fine, if not that's ok too. Just let her know you are listening, and want to help.

If she doesn't indicate that there's any trouble there, then it may just be separation anxiety. Absolutely very normal. Or could be uncertainty, that she's not sure she's doing the right thing, going the right place, sitting the right place, finding her classroom etc, and cries. (My kid does that ALL.THE.TIME!) Can you talk with her teacher and find out how she acts at school? If she's ok by the time she gets there, then try not to worry so much. If you had a chance, could you even ask the bus driver? (I don't know if that's something that you could do, I don't use the buses so not sure how that works.) Is there some older neighbor kid who also rides the same bus that you could ask (or offer to hire for $5) to look after your girl for a few weeks, til she gets used to things? (ie sit with her on the bus, make sure she gets to her classroom on time)

My little guy would cling to me and fuss and not want me to go when I dropped him at preschool. But once I left he was fine and when I came to get him he would cry as soon as he saw me because he didn't want to leave! He had a little separation anxiety but I just reminded him that I WOULD be back right at lunch time to get him, and to remember, I ALWAYS come for him and I always will. Teacher said he was fine within minutes after I left.

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