my beautiful daughter

Shellaneka - posted on 10/10/2015 ( 57 moms have responded )




I have a 16 year old. She is honest enough to tell me that she has a boyfriend but I can't come to my senses about it. Her school work is good and behaviour is good so I would like to know how to approach this. I don't want her to start hiding things from me! What should I do ?


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Mom you have raised a good girl. If she kept secrets or was failing in her behavior or grades then I would be concerned but she is not by your own admission doing those things. It is Okay and time to start trusting your daughter and your own abilities as a parent. Let go of some of those worries. There is no such thing as the "Perfect" parent! We all do the best we can and it sounds to me like you are doing a wonderful job! I have three grown sons of my own who have made great lives for their wives and children and Boy did I mess things up in some respects but my children know that no matter what I love them. I think you have that down pat with your daughter. Keep up the good work and relax. There is nothing wrong with boundries and in letting go. ;)

Raye - posted on 10/28/2015




Sarah E., "GoodFriend" is either a troll, a child, or mentally/technologically challenged. They have made several posts that don't make sense.

Good - posted on 10/25/2015




First you get a information that is that boy good are bad.because that boy is good you will do marrie with your daughter.ones a control in your daughter she will be drop with you

Candace - posted on 08/25/2016




Just be calm with her if she feels she cant open up to you then she will start to hide things from you and you won't know when & if she has sex she has to be able to have a friend in you so be mom but her bestfriend as well if that makes any since


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Summer - posted on 12/25/2017




I would not freak out about it...but keep a close eye and lines of communication open. Let her know it is OK to be honest with you, and show support no matter what she says and by all means don't come down on her. As long as she is not getting pregnant, communication is key. Don't be shocked by some things she may open up to...again, be supportive.

Watch grades and behavior...if either of these change or she becomes stand-offish, wanting to just be a lone and not open up to you...then that is the time for concern because she is doing something she shouldn't and is feeling guilty about it.

16 year olds do is normal!

Hebe - posted on 10/09/2017




Sit down with your daughter and explain your concerns. You can set limitations or boundaries, explain that to her and why. If she breaks the rules, explain the consequences and don't deviate from them.

Errin - posted on 07/01/2017




.... i started dating my child's father at 15 and had my daughter at 19... if he's serious about her you should probably meet her

Leonora - posted on 11/20/2016




Happy Birthday to my dimples, Kaitlyn. Hope you have a wonderful day my baby girl. Granny loves you to the moon and back 🎂🎂🎂🎂🌹🌹🌹🌹🍦🍦🍦🍦

Eva - posted on 09/13/2016




I can't overstate how important and crucial it is to keep the lines of communication open and honest with her NO MATTER WHAT. I know the topic is uncomfortable I completely get it as I am the mother of an almost 15 year old who shared with me about a boy who is interested in her and plays football for their HS and is really smart and charming and polite and according to my daughter CUTE. A degree in Child Psychology and Development taught me that many studies have concluded that teen pregnancy is a result of parents who DO NOT and WILL NOT and REFUSE to have open, honest, and hard discussions about sex, protection, kissing, fondling, and lots of other stuff. If curiosity killed the CAT then NOT having these discussions openly and with trust can cause bad outcomes. My daughter's grades are stellar, she is a great athlete, takes honors classes, and is a girl scout. It's better to let her feel she can come to you now that way down-the-line she will continue to turn to you during those difficult moments in her life as a young woman.

Sherry - posted on 08/17/2016




I have been in a similar situation recently with my son. I felt when he told me he was really watching my face for my reaction. I lovingly looked at him and said wow that is great! I did not ask any questions at that time, even though my heart was breaking and my mind was racing. I just looked at him like "I understand". Now I ask little questions here and there when no one is around and it is just me and him. Just get to know questions like " How is Sara Doing?" or "Does Sara have any brothers or Sisters?" I would really like to have my son be comfortable talking to me about her without the feeling of judgement or worry that I will have an Opinion. I know when he needs my advice he will ask me and in the mean time I am just trying to get a feeling for his comfort level discussing things with me. Mainly I just bring it up when no one is around, especially his siblings, to prevent the constant torture. I guess the next step would be to meet her, but I would love to do this without the pressure of siblings around. Love at this age does not last long so we will see if it gets that far! lol

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/18/2015




Dove, when yours reach this age, they'll be fine! They've got a pretty level headed mama looking out for them!

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