My boyfriend and I have been having quite a bit of trouble out of his 11 year old daughter for the last year and a half. It started with my boyfriends sister and I taking her for a haircut. Myself and his sister were getting ours cut very short and as I was getting mine cut she was sitting with his sister and chose a short doo also. I told her it was her decsion. It looked AMAZING on her and everyone loved it except for the Mom and apparantly a few of the girls at school. When she first got it cut everyone was fine Including the Mom. Over the summer everything was fine. THEN all of a sudden when she started school she was teased, flipped out one day because she was being teased and ended up in a mental facility for 5 days to be evaluated. Needless to say the daughter and the Mom blamed me for her breakdown and the Mother called it abuse. on my part. Things have become much worse since then and I am at a loss as how to react or what to do. She steals from me (jewlery or money) then bats her eyes and denies doing anything wrong. Dad and Mom believe her and she smirks and goes about her business. The Dad ( my boyfriend) has finally come around and realized it is his daughter and not me. Counseling is still going on over the whole situation but I am never invited to say my side and keep getting blamed for everything. What can I do? I am not going to leave him as I have been a part of his family (his sister has been my best friend for 16 years and know the parents quite well) I love him dearly but am tired of being blamed but I feel I am the one being violated and not allowed to speak my mind to anyone that matters except the father....HELP!.

Kimberly Anne - posted on 06/04/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




Behavior/not taking responsibility for ones own actions


MaryAnn - posted on 06/04/2015




Im very sorry to hear that she is being bullied, and im sorry to hear that she is acting out. At eleven years old, youre right, it is her decision, and she made it on her own. This isnt abuse on your part. However, if she is made to feel this way, it is real for her. At this point it should be long enough... a shopping trip for cute hair decorations could really help her feel like you care.

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