My boyfriend of 4 years cheated... what do I tell my son?

Pinky147 - posted on 11/03/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




My boyfriend and I were planning on moving in together. I had been hesitant the last 2 years to move in for my son's sake and it caused a bit of friction. I finally decided it was the right thing to so and we were moving on the marriage track. He was always the one bringing these things up, buying a house, getting married, having a baby... and I really thought that was where we were going. Two weeks ago he told me he panicked about the reality of actually moving in with my son and I. (My son is 11 and his father has never been involved). He went out and got drunk and cheated on me rather than talk to me.

Now he wants to stay friendly with my son and i? I love him so much and want to go back to two weeks ago and fix it but I cant. How do I tell my son who we had spoken to about us all moving in together that actually instead he isn't going to see this guy again. I can't be friends with him after this. I literally threw up the last time I saw him.

I'm so incredibly hurt! But I don't want my son to hate him, he has been so amazing the last 4 years but how do I get over this and not hurt my son in the process.


Roberta - posted on 11/04/2016




So sorry you're going through this. He was wrong. But look at it like this you're finding out, before you move in with him or marry him, that he is terrible at handling anxiety and communicating. However if you've been together for 4 years and he's been amazing........ I would not recommend making any big moves but perhaps there's a chance you guys can still be friends or maybe you will even make the choice to work it out. Be thankful you got this warning sign before you moved in with him. Just tell your son you decided not to move in with your boyfriend. He doesn't need to know all the details.

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