My daughter

Jenny - posted on 10/14/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I saw my daughter kissing her bf in her room and on the bedbut they both had clothes on but he had his hand up her shirt i just stared for a couple of seconds but left afterwards is it ok thy i let my daughter have a bf at age 15?


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It is okay that you let her have a boyfriend, most 15 year olds are beginning to date. It is NOT okay that she allowed him to put his hand up her shirt!

I would immediately put a stop to that. Talk to her about her body and self respect. Make sure she respects her body enough to keep it off limits to anyone but herself until she is ready to become a mother. I know, babies aren't made from getting felt up, but I can assure you, the boy feeling her up was thinking about sex and if she allows him to feel her up, it will not be long before they move into more dangerous waters.

I also agree with Evelyn--kissing is fine, that is an intimate display of affection and does not have to go beyond the kiss to be fulfilling, but feeling a girl up is not intimate, nor is it a display of affection, it is just an outlet for lust and sexual desire. That doesn't mean it is wrong, but she is too young for it.

Ev - posted on 10/14/2013




Why would you allow a boy to be in your daughter's room at all? What does he need to be in there for? When I was that age my parents made my boyfriends or dates sit in the living area where they could see me and him. Your daughter should also be in public areas of the home so you can keep an eye on her and be sure she is not doing something she should not. Kissing is one thing but his hand up her shirt is not right. She is a girl still and you are allowing this behavior to happen. I think you need to rethink what is going on here and set up some rules about no boys in the bedroom at all.

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