my daughter and my husband, her step father

Tracy - posted on 09/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter and my husband which is her step father cant seem to get along or bond. She has reached out to me crying wanting his love and attention and I have talk to him but it always seems to go right back. I dont know what else I can do. Any advice


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/19/2012




Probably something that you should have considered prior to marrying this man. If he does not appreciate, love, cherish and nurture your children, why did you even get into a relationship with him?

I'd suggest FAMILY counseling. Yes, this means he needs to participate, but, honestly, in my experience, if he isn't enthusiastic about bonding with your kids, he doesn't want to bond with your kids, and you need to help your daughter find another outlet for her feelings. You need to quit leading her into thinking that your husband will eventually love her. (don't call him her step-dad, because he's not a dad, nor does it sound like he really wants to be) be truthful with her, and explain that he simply cannot connect emotionally, and not to expect much from him.

I would also suggest perhaps a youth pastor, or other male figure that she can look up to as a substitute.

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