My daughter hates me

Anita - posted on 11/07/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




I raised my 17 year old daughter on my own since birth, we were always very closed, she was my best friend as well as my daughter. We argued as most parents do with their child when they try to push boundaries. My daughter was a Grade A Student, she achieved A*, As and Bs in her GCSEs and cried when she got the Bs although there were only 3 of them. I praised her, encouraged her, nurtured her as well as working full time to keep a roof over her head and feed and cloth her, I had no maintenance from her father whatsoever. My daughter saw all her friends getting boyfriends and wanted to become part of the same crowd although she had good friends she felt something was missing. She would get close to a boy just as friends, they would message each other, he would lose interest and then refuse to speak to her and everytime mum was on hand to pick up the pieces when she became upset. I always told her that she was beautiful inside and out and someone would come along to appreciate her qualities but not to jump into a relationship and to concentrate her efforts on school and college and focus on University as she wants to be a midwife. Anyway she got a part time job at McDonalds in July 2015 which she was pleased about and over the New Year period she told me that one of the lads that worked there wanted to take her for a drive in his car to the cliffs. I said as she was only 16 and he was 20 that I did not like the fact that they would go off in the car when I did not know who he was so compromised and asked that he came for dinner which he did. He seemed very nice and they started a relationship. Then in February she became 17 and she seemed to change into a "diva". She was learning to drive and I took on extra work to provide her with a second hand car and seemed to have to nag her to take lessons as he became her whole world. She was talking about love within the first week. Anyway the arguments increased which I admit got a little heated and I did slap her when things got confrontational and then told her to distance herself from me as she would stand and goad me into losing my temper. Ultimately she walked out on 5th April this year and went to live with him and his mother and sent text message to me in August to say she wants no further contact with me, she is happy and safe. it transpires that after she left she told the college and McDonalds and her friends that I beat her up and she needed to move for her own safety. I cannot get my head around this whole mess and everyday throws up something new. Recently I came across an email where in February this year she ordered saucy underwear to be delivered to this boy's house and I can't believe that this decision came solely from my daughter. I can't move on with my life and cry all the time yet she moved on the day she left and blocked me from social media, phone and text. Has anyone any help they can offer please I am desperate as she was my world and I don't want to give up on her

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