my daughter is 17 she will be 18 in two months she always wants to leave with her boyfriend and I tell her I will call the cops if she doesn't come home can she leave at the age of 17


Dove - posted on 04/16/2015




Why not sit down w/ her and discuss this issue like two rational adults? Where does she want to go w/ her boyfriend and why? Why do you object? Is she still in school? Has a job? What about him?

If you come at this from a point of just looking out for her well being and wanting to help her have a PLAN for her life vs. simply being a controlling dictator... you might get further w/ her. She may still not see your point and may still want to go off w/ him, but that is when the two of you can come up w/ reasonable and respectful rules for the adults in the household.. or she can choose to move out on her own in 2 months.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/16/2015




I agree with the other ladies. Recognize that the dynamic of your relationship needs to be modified to that of an adult child/parent relationship.

Why can you not discuss things with your daughter on a mature basis? It's an adjustment, yes, but it has to happen, otherwise you run the risk of alienating your daughter and not understanding why.

Jodi - posted on 04/16/2015




She is 2 months off being 18. At this point, there is not a lot you can do about it. Sure, you could call the police, but why would you decide to do this when in 2 months, this is a non-issue. You'd only ruin the relationship you have with her. Where I live, the police wouldn't do anything anyway.

At this point, your daughter is about to become an adult. You need to instead set boundaries within your home for her that are suitable to having an adult child. Let her know that you have expectations in your home, of EVERYONE living in your home, including the adults.

Ev - posted on 04/16/2015




You are still responsible for her until she is 18 and so you can tell her that but is it going to do any good? Why not ask her why she needs to move on with her boyfriend? Talk to her and see what she is after in life. But once she is 18, she can go and you can not stop her.

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