My daughter is 31 years old and keep getting fatter

Josee - posted on 05/19/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




Is it okay for me to talk about it with her and try to help her loose weight?
She is not facing her problem.
Her dad as she was growing up always told her that she was overweight.
She is very sensitive but also pretty lazy. Do not like to work out, not active at all.
I don't know, what to do anymore.


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Josee - posted on 05/22/2014




Believe it I let her live her life.
She is very smart and does very well at school.
after falling apart, she came to me for help. I
sent her back to school for her master ( because I believe in her and education)
I sent her to BU to study in public health ( her choice)
The deal was that i will help her : pay tuition and rent until she graduate.
She was overweight when she went there but I thought if she does something she likes it will help her to loose weight.
No it didn't happen. She just graduated from her master this past week end , finished in the 10% best of her class of 300 students and got an award best leadership.
I am very proud of her. But she gain another 50 lbs.I am sad to see her like that.
I didn't mention anything about her weight . We celebrated her graduation with my family who visited from Montreal. We really did have a good time.
I am waiting now for her to get a job ( she had many interviews but no answers yet) and then when she gets a job , she is on her own.
It is time to give up and let her go.

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2014




You need to let her live her life, not be judgmental.
There does come a point as a parent that you need to realize that you have to let them go.
Like Shawnn said: If she comes to you for advice then help but otherwise leave it alone.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/19/2014




well, lets see. How about let your adult daughter make her own decisions about what she's comfortable with or not?

That seems logical to me, especially since you cannot even be polite about it, just saying she's getting fatter...

Weight is a sensitive issue. If you cannot approach your adult daughter without being insulting or verbally abusive, then leave it alone. If she approaches you about it, then it would be ok to suggest alternatives.

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