My daughter is 6 & I think she may have ADHD, or at least very hyper. She is a handfull! Can anyone give me some info about other than text book stuff, has anyone got a child with ADHD?

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Lisa - posted on 01/22/2009

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My son is 9 and has ADHD.  I began noticing at age 3 that he was more rambunctious than other kids his age.  For 3 years I tried to tell myself that it was just his age and that he would grow out of his hyperactivity.  In kindergarten his teachers told me right away that I may want to take him to a doctor and have him tested for ADHD.  I did not.  I waited until he was 6 years old.  By that time, he had become so delayed in his progress at school that his teachers and I had to discuss putting him in special education classes.  He attended special ed all throughout first grade with not much progress.  Second grade came around again and at parent teacher conferences, the school staff sat down with me and expressed their concern about Tyler.  They urged me to consider taking him in to a specialist to be tested for ADHD.  I realized that this problem was real and that if I didn't do something soon, Tyler may not be succesful in life.  I took him in to the psychiatrist and he was tested.  It turn out the teachers were right all along!  Tyler was diagnosed with ADHD in second grade at age 7.  At that time ha was 2 years behind academically and needed special ed for both reading and math.  I got him started on Adderall XR.  Instantly i noticed a major difference in Tyler's behavior.  It was like magic.  Now, 2 years later at age 9, Tyler is attending regular education classes!!! That's right...he caught up:-)  It was the best thing I have ever done for him.

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My daughter was diagnosed just before she turned 6 after a rough year of kindergarten.  The teacher and I noticed it early in the year and chalked it up to being very advanced/ smart for her age, and thought she was just bored during the lessons .. therefore not sitting still and disrupting class.  About mid-year (right after winter break) the teacher started thinking is might be ADHD (and confronted me about that possibility).  We tried diets and allergy testing as well as mental health aids (bumpy seat, etc.) ... none of which helped.  So, we were referred to the local mental health center for assessment.  She was diagnosed with ADHD and put on medication, which I saw a difference immediately!!  It took about 5 months to figure out the proper medication and dosage for her (and our) needs.  But, it's perfect now.



As for symptoms, don't know if you want to know what she was doing or not, ... she couldn't 'sit' and do ANY one thing for any period of time unless it really used her brain and was interesting to her.  The dr that assessed her told me that basically what her deal was, which is different for everyone, is that she is very very smart and has SO much going on in her brain at one time that she can't control herself, including her thoughts and concentration.  She must keep her herself and brain busy to be 'controlled' ... watching her, this is so accurate.  And, what the meds do, is stimulates her brain to function 'properly' so she can actually focus on one specific thing at a time and do exactly what she wants to and is supposed to do!!



Now, she is in the top 2% of her 2nd grade class.  Plays every sport possible, and does excellent in them all .. her team won the local softball championship last summer, and her flag-football team was 2nd this fall.  She's doing super ..



And, as for her appetite and sleeping, which was a concern with all ADHD meds ... her appetite has never left her, she's always hungry and she falls asleep well, and stays asleep.  Neither has ever been an issue.  She's on a 1-a-day dose med that lasts 10-12 hrs.



Never thought I'd be a parent of a child that needed ADHD medication .. when I was younger and had classmates on meds, I hated what it did to them so I never wanted to put my child on any.  But, the meds have changed and advanced so much over the years, I did SO much research on the medications they were prescribing her before I agreed to let her take them.  I decided if it didn't help, I could always stop AND if it will benefit her and won't harm her .. it'd worth it.  And it definately has been...



Sorry to write you a novel on it, I'd be glad to give you any more info you'd like (if I have it) if i didn't cover what you wanted to hear.  :)

Beth - posted on 01/18/2009

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My son was on Adderall and then went to Vyvanse. I love it, but it is gone by evening time so homework can be an issue if I don't get it done on time! I have had to give my son melatonin as well, and his doctor because of the lack of weight gain has prescribed an antihistimine that has the side effect of weight gain so we are giving it a try instead of the melatonin. I have heard some conflicting reports and studies that melatonin because it is a hormone that is naturally produced by the body is unsafe to be given on a regular basis and the recommendation is now for valarian root, but when I took this up with the pediatrician he said not to worry about it, the people who put on the study I couldn't verify who they were and if they were independents or sponsored by another group. I have also found the "Out of Sync Child" for sensory processing disorder, which my children have been diagnosed with a component of this and it makes so much sense, they have little tricks and suggestions and my children understand the "How does your engine run" section and we frequently use the you're running too high or you are running too low to remind them to refocus. Children are so individualistic, especially when they have ADD or ADHD triggers vary and treatments vary so greatly. Some can come off meds for the weekend, some don't need meds at all and just need less distractions or have an allergy to some of the crazy products that get thrown into every day food, and some are perfectly capable of adapting to the every day life. The important thing is to just support, ask questions, educate yourself and educate in a way where you know who is the source of the information because it can be so skewed. I too hope my child can eventually come off the meds and learn to adapt and refocus himself. On the weekends when he is off his meds I remind him when he goes off track and states it is because he didn't have them that the meds are only there to help him focus in school it isn't going to make him remember how to follow the rules :) I am struggling to find an activity that burns energy that my son can enjoy. He is so fascinated by science and chemistry and the soccer, judo, baseball and such haven't worked for him. Anyone have any other suggestions for an energy burning activity that provides for socialization as well as activity?

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hi there! my son is/was query adhd and is under a specialist, i tried cutting things out and didnt really help, the hardest thing for me besides wanting to kill him (sometimes!) was him not going to sleep, my specialsit was very helpful and he has medication to relax him to go to sleep. i do find it very hard from time to time so i would love any help and info too



good luck xxxx

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Dianne - posted on 01/30/2009

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To medicate or not to medicate. My son (11) was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6. He went for speech therapy and attended a remedial school. both of these helped tremendously, however the older he got the more difficult it became with medication as it seemed to no longer work. Also there are side effects to consider, ritalin suppresses their appetite. we have now opted to change his diet completely and have also resorted to Omega 3 supplements and Biostrath, both are supposed to help with concentration with ADHD. The best course of action is to read as much as you can and to make sure you are aware of any side effects that medication may have. Also remember that what works for one child may not work for yours so it is important to always keep a look out for new treatments and to listen to other parents who have changed their childs medication or diet etc.

Cleo - posted on 01/30/2009

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try 2 cut out all the e numbers frist then if this doesnt work then go 2 see your doctor i have 3 sons and all 3 son have adhd heres a couple of sites i looked at myself hope it works 4 u

http://www.adhd.org.uk/

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/adhd/index.sh...



http://books.google.co.uk/books?q=ADHD&s... this link take u 2 loads of book u can read online about adhd

i know myself we never plan anything if we do the kids well mess it up

try 2 keep each day as planned as normal i know frommy 3 if u change just 1 think it well throw them it there start kicking off

gd luck if u want 2 talk more then plzs feel free 2 give me a shout k

Donna - posted on 01/30/2009

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i have a son of 11 with ADHD and i noticed he had this when he was 3 but no one listened and i have only recently got him diagnosed. my advice is to do reward cards for good behaviour and for when she is really calm. i found that these worked really well. also i cut out sweets and fizzy drinks compeletly until u know what makes her hyper as some things can trigger this more. but with alot of patience and i mean alot u can do loads for her. i found keeping to a very strict routine helped alot too as kids with ADHD love having the same routine daily. also teach your child time out it only needs to be for 1 min to start off with then gradually increase the time eventually the child learns how to calm themselves down i found an egg timer helped with doing this as they can hold it and watch it so when the time came they could get up and start again. you are welcome to contact me if u ever need time to talk and have a moan as i found this also to be very helpful. i have loads of funny stories about my son. it is hard and demanding work but all worth while

Pamela - posted on 01/30/2009

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Before you go into "stressed out" "I think".......take ONE HOUR, sit down, calm your mind by using deep breathing techniques....count to ten as you breathe in....hold for 5 seconds, count to ten as you breathe out. When you feel more relaxed, as the Spirit within your OWN HEART to respond with an answer. You may have to do this several times or even days in a row before you receive an answer. BE PATIENT and trust your inner voice! Answers come when we have prepared our heart and mind to receive them WITHOUT JUDGMENT!

Jana Kaye - posted on 01/23/2009

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Also, let me say, Livi, relax. I can say that now because my 5th grader when diagnosed is now a high honor student at 16. As a sophmore his is a goal-driven, well-adjusted, very happy child who seems to be the "favorite" of many teacher's and coaches. Oh yeah, this boy was also born without a left hand and has that on his plate as well to deal with. His strong faith in God, as well as ours as a family, has led him to know without a doubt that his purpose on earth will be great and exciting. So, too, will your little girls. There is a lot of psycho babble for you to sift through in all of these posts. Relax, step-back, PRAY, find people who live with it daily and do well and use them! That's what were here for. I find all of the arguing over the moraltiy of treatment disgusting. Don't let those posts bother you. As a matter of fact, I'd just check them off altogether. Whatever works, works. It may take a while to figure it out, but you will.

Jana Kaye - posted on 01/23/2009

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We found a 504 plan works better for us than an IEP. I am a former HS teacher and had help from the special ed teachers in going about this. Legally, a 504 plan gives the parents more "teeth" in establishing and carrying out accomodations for their child. An IEP should be considered if there are other or more severe learning disabilities that are not improved by ADHD treatment. Like the IEP, once you request a staffing, the school is bound to follow-thru. Find an in school advocate for your child. Ours was the middle school guidance counselor who, himself, has ADHD. He was immensely supportive of our child and was able to give us a human "road map" as to what to expect. Look, some of the most successful people in the world lived with this. Go to Charlesschwab.org to get a list and other tips.

Teri - posted on 01/23/2009

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If you really think she may have ADHD don't hesitate in getting the school to help you. Request that they do an evaluation for an IEP immediately. They have to do it once you request it. They will set up some meetings with you and a team of people including the school psychologist and counselors. Getting an IEP in place early will protect her rights if she encounters any trouble in school and may also give you access to other resources for help.

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aw thanks!! i dont feel like a great mammy most of the time, my son and daughter like to fight so its hard to sit down, although i may be out tonight yippee



 



maybe just a calm event xxxxx



 



Candace im going to look into the herbal remedies that you mentioned will let you know



 



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Deborah - posted on 01/23/2009

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Quoting Claire:



hey guys and particularly deborah for your kind words, this site has helped me realise that im not alone and i need to go back to the specialist with connor as the problems and difficulties hes been having at school is highlighted quite a bit with eachothers children and after a particularly fraught evening i owe it to my son to do everything in my power to make his school and home life better in every possible way whether it be with meds or not, ill keep you all updated and good luck all xxxx





Your very welcome Claire, You are a great mother & that shows, I truely hope you get the help & support needed for not only your son but yourself too, as the best way to help your son is for you to be healthy & have some time to yourself too! I know that is easier said than done, but dont forget you are importaint too! Good Luck Big Hugs Deborah xxx

Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2009

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I understand what your going though. It is really hard raising a child with adhd. I am in the same situation your in. I am trying to find answers that will work.

Candace - posted on 01/22/2009

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If you desire to try herbal supplements, be sure and talk to your doctor first. The doctor will usually tell you that they "don't believe" in the effectiveness on herbal remedies, but at least they can take a look at the ingredients and tell you if there is anything potentially harmful in the supplements.



Two that we have tried are Calm Child, and Calms Forte For Kids-both are available at Whole Foods and various other places.

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2009

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I think you prob have already gotton alot of good advice but here is some more if your interested. First off...get a real diagnosis....there are alot of things that can look like ADHD. Go to a phsycologist or psychiatrist. My son had a complete neurophsycological evaluation at CHADD. That was the most helpful and informative thing we have ever done. It only takes a day and is simple testing. That was when ADHD was first mentioned with him. We took him to a councelor after that who thought it could be managed without meds. Now we are about 2 years later and he is seeeing someoneelse and we are trying meds very soon. It has just gotton too difficult and we have tried everything else! Goodluck!

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hey guys and particularly deborah for your kind words, this site has helped me realise that im not alone and i need to go back to the specialist with connor as the problems and difficulties hes been having at school is highlighted quite a bit with eachothers children and after a particularly fraught evening i owe it to my son to do everything in my power to make his school and home life better in every possible way whether it be with meds or not, ill keep you all updated and good luck all xxxx

Julie-anne - posted on 01/22/2009

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i hope my son wont get spaced out, as even i thought that it shouldnt do that, it just makes them be able to sit an learn for a couple ov hours, i only want him to have it while in school, so he can learn, he can only barely write his name as he dont want to learn anything, i dont mind him being hisself at home as weve put up with it for 8 yrz, i just want my boy 2 bable to get along in life, not drugged up,

Judy - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Lucie:



I have a son  (now 22 ) which had and still has ADD/ ADHD he was on ritaline and let me tell you it's no fun to see your child spaced out when they have half a day of school sure it helps with school teachers other children but when he was home i never gave it to him.




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If a child is "spaced out" that is either not the right medication or not the right dose.  A child should NOT be spaced out. 



 



 

Ronda - posted on 01/22/2009

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It took alot of fighting to have my daughter diagnosised with ADHD because she is a girl and it is rare. We tried all the food that might trigger. We did find caffine a bad one(expecially in tea) no red dyed foods. Low sugar. Sometimes certain high fat foods did as well. But that did not stop it and there were days I felt like some of you (like I wanted to kill here before she killed me) but we love them the same. After finally getting here evaluated throught the School. We did get here on medication and it helped for many years. But as they grow and the hormones take over you have to adjust. We did find at 16 she did have other conditions with the ADHD that had been masked by the ADHD symptoms. ODD and OCD. Now she will be 18 and she is coming along. You just have to fight until you think you can't anymore and then things will fall into place. And then you will appreciate her for who she is.

Julie-anne - posted on 01/22/2009

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hi, yes ive got a son with adhd, only got diagnozed xmas time, an i been on to the school since he was 4, an he is now 8, got to wait till february 4 medication, best thing u can do is tell the doctors an keep on to them an they will refer you. to a specialist, is yours loving with it as mine is so loving but can also be very evil, all the best julie x

Erin - posted on 01/22/2009

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Reading through the posts i think people forget the idea of what posts are about.  I think its fine to offer your thoughts/position on something but lets not criticize others for not believing the same as you.  You put your thoughts/experiences out here for people to read because you have had similar experiences.  I would think you take all posts at face value while allowing you to understand the different ways people handle certain situations. 



This conversation in particular is a sensitive one because of the issues involved.  I can tell you this as a mother of a 7 year old with ADHD it was probably the most difficult decision to put him on meds regularly.  Do i think that kids are misdiagnosed?  Yes, do i think that some kids just need good discipline opposed to ritalin?  Yes, do i think that too many kids are put on meds just because it goes hand and hand with a diagnosis?  Yep.  Does all this make me a bad parent?  I hope not.  Im only doing what i think is best for my son to help him get his fidgeting under control in school so he can concentrate better.  For a child who loves to learn and not wanting him to lose that enthusiasm i had to take the step back and assess what was going on.  Yes there are side effects to his meds, fortunately for us we havent experienced any of them.  Hes lost some weight and i voiced my concerns to the neurologist right away but he assured me that it wasnt a big concern because it was summer and obviously hes more active.  I was ok with that.  The biggest thing you can do as a parent is question anything you arent comfortable with.  In the end you make the final call on what to do with your child.  Has medication worked for us?  for the most part yes.  I think some tend to forget that your child may also be doing age appropriate things as well and you have to weed through them.  You can fill out all the tests and questionaires you want but you also have to evaluate based on age and condition.



Just my 2 cents

Bonnie - posted on 01/22/2009

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hi my 6 year old son is adhd.He was very active from the time he could stand.In his crib he would bounce for a hour or two.He would run not walk.Always jumping on other kids no matter there size,wouldn't sit to eat always had to keep going,very loud,saucy. If we were in the car we had to make sure he didn't just jump out .He was almost hit a few times.It was hard for him to keep eye contact or if he got mad he would slam his hand till he got a bruse.we new there was something up but my Dr said he's just active.When he started school week 2 the bus driver was complaining week 3 the teacher was saying he had to go out in the hall The other kids didn't want to play with him.So a friend told me about this doctor After a lot of calls and bagging we seen her in 2 weeks  she has a waiting list of 6 months.We went to see her  she watched Chris we answered a lot of questions and right there she said. He is so adha he could be the poster child .We started him on Ritalin that we controlled starting he with 5 mg then to 10 mg till we were happy with his actions.No more bus problems school A&Bs (in grade one if you can believe that lol) Kids are playing with him We still have some problems ..mornings are hard He gets his meds at 6:30 so he is good for school.We had to learn Home work when he's medicated or nothing will be done hope this has  helped

Bonnie - posted on 01/22/2009

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hi my 6 year old son is adhd.He was very active from the time he could stand.In his crib he would bounce for a hour or two.He would run not walk.Always jumping on other kids no matter there size,wouldn't sit to eat always had to keep going,very loud,saucy. If we were in the car we had to make sure he didn't just jump out .He was almost hit a few times.It was hard for him to keep eye contact or if he got mad he would slam his hand till he got a bruse.we new there was something up but my Dr said he's just active.When he started school week 2 the bus driver was complaining week 3 the teacher was saying he had to go out in the hall The other kids didn't want to play with him.So a friend told me about this doctor After a lot of calls and bagging we seen her in 2 weeks  she has a waiting list of 6 months.We went to see her  she watched Chris we answered a lot of questions and right there she said. He is so adha he could be the poster child .We started him on Ritalin that we controlled starting he with 5 mg then to 10 mg till we were happy with his actions.No more bus problems school A&Bs (in grade one if you can believe that lol) Kids are playing with him We still have some problems ..mornings are hard He gets his meds at 6:30 so he is good for school.We had to learn Home work when he's medicated or nothing will be done hope this has  helped

Karen - posted on 01/22/2009

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I forgot to add this and I feel it's truly the most important thing to remember when dealing with any issue with our dear children. There is NO absolute with anything. There is NO one right way. Giving medication is sometimes the wrong way to go and sometimes it's the only way. That's why it's so important to do just what you have. Stick your neck out there and gather up the information. Skim off the stuff that sounds totally nuts to you. Check into the stuff that rings true. Maybe it'll be a combination of things. Take in as much info as you can. Join CHADD. There's seminars on learning disabilities and neuropathy. Here in the Detroit area we have the annual Michael Golds Conference at OCC every fall where speakers come in from many facets to deliver the latest news.



Anyway, I'm getting off point. Don't let anyone tell you that there's only one way. Every child is unique and we need to treat them that way!

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When my daughter was in first grade the teacher pushed the ADHD on us big time.. I refused the drugs and put her on a strick diet and read everything I could get my hands on.  I will tell you the best thing we did was a routine.  Sounds crazy, but everything had a time and place.  She did very well with this. She is 16 now a straight A student, and we never put her on the drug.  This is your child trust yourself.

Deborah - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Zerlina:

...So sorry I have to disagree, doctors who are lableing children with this ADD or AHAD, and giving medicine, really makes me sooo mad. It's actually killing the child. I know it sounds crazy... Wellness is the way to go!!! Chiropractor, Clean eating (organic foods), healthy lifestyle, Whole food supplements...... Get an allergie test done, you will be surprised.



Your post makes Me sooo mad, Have you got a child with autism / add??? I couldnt get my child anywhere near a chiropractor as he doesnt like to be touched especially by a stranger! Its ok in an ideal world eating a balanced diet, but my child used to eat the wall paper and now only wants to eat BBQ hula hoops & cherrios so what ever food I can get him to eat is a bonus. Ever mother who has signed up to circle of moms cares about their child so lay off with the critisism. Alot of damage has been done through people taking hebal remedies too without knowing the consequences, just look at chelaton!! I understand you are putting a side across but there is no easy way or we would all be doing it!!!

Karen - posted on 01/22/2009

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I have an 8 year old son who was diagnosed over the summer with ADHD combined (both inattentive and hyperactivity). In his case, we're faced with more problems with the inattention which makes school difficult. The hyperactivity stems more from impulse control (acting up while frustrated) rather than actual hyper behavior. We were really opposed to the ideal of medication but our psychologist (who happens to have authored several books on ADHD) urged us to consider it if behavior modifications didn't wholy satisfy our goals. We ended up trying Concerta and after a handful of dosage tweaks, he's getting As in school. His behavior has come a long way and we're seeing confidence and self esteem emerged out of this otherwise sullen kid. We use a lot of Love and Logic to deal with the ordinary kid stuff (kids act up, it isn't always ADHD!) and a positive reinforcement system using rewards (a marble economy).



 



Our six year old girl is currently being tested for ADHD. In her case she has an endless supply of energy! She is brilliant - reading at least two grade levels ahead and her math skills are not far behind that. But she can't sit in her seat and is so easily distracted that her teacher is concerned that she isn't digested her lessons wholey. We, as parents, said that we would wait until it was affecting her studies before we considered testing and we're now at that stage. I'm truly hoping that with age her hyperactivity will fizzle, but we are open to the idea of medication if behavior mod doesn't produce results for school.



 



I'm not willing to get into the med debate with people who consider K. Trudeau to be anything other than a money-grubbing quack. Do your own research. Read up on current science. Always question what you read. And decide for yourself and for the benefit of your children. Do your best in everything. Feed your children FOOD. Whole foods, good nutrition, and avoid the synthetic stuff. Check out what your kid eats and if anything might be affecting them. (We don't let our kids have any caffeine ever, and unless they get it outside the home, there's no artificial food dyes in their foods of any color.) Hone your parenting skills, we all need inspiriation! (We love Love and Logic.) Read up on ADHD, there's a lot of bad info out there. (Read "You Mean I'm not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?! by Kate Kelly and Pegy Ramundo to see what it's like to be an adult with ADHD - it's great perspective.) and talk to a child psychologist, not a pediatrician, about ADHD. Our doctor cannot perscribe and has nothing to gain by recommending a medication therapy. We worked with our psychologist and MD to get the best benefits with the lowest risks.



 



Good luck, there's plenty of us out there so you're not alone!!

MacKenzie - posted on 01/22/2009

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I acknowledge you for your courage to talk about this as it is sometimes hard to do.



I counsel through diet and nutrition many mothers who deal with this. I have a experiance in endocrine systems and nutrition of holistic nature.



The first thing is nutrition and body work! I reccomend getting your child into a rolfing expert or trager therapist. ADHD is a neorological inflammation as I am sure you know, and body work can ease and "ground" your child back to Earth. Consider as well that these children are actually extremely intelligent beings and just vibrate higher than we are used to so we have labeled them as well.



I am open to talking with you VIA phone if you would like some other resources.



 

Deborah - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Claire:



hi there! my son is/was query adhd and is under a specialist, i tried cutting things out and didnt really help, the hardest thing for me besides wanting to kill him (sometimes!) was him not going to sleep, my specialsit was very helpful and he has medication to relax him to go to sleep. i do find it very hard from time to time so i would love any help and info too






good luck xxxx






Claire its refreshing to see someone whos honest, that when its tough its really tough. I found Melatonin for sleep really helped although be aware dosage will need to be increased as childs weight increases ect



Big hugs xx

Lucie - posted on 01/22/2009

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I have a son  (now 22 ) which had and still has ADD/ ADHD he was on ritaline and let me tell you it's no fun to see your child spaced out when they have half a day of school sure it helps with school teachers other children but when he was home i never gave it to him.



He would not eat and was so skinny from this medication because it was a form of speed but because of imbalance in the brain speed reacts as a calming drug with children with ADD/ADHD.



It was really bad he would go to sleep early and pooped but would wake up at 3 or 4  and have the run of the house at the time he was 3 yrs so our Doc suggested i put a lock on his door wich i did it was better to have him safe in his room than wandering threw the house alone.



so i did see a Psychologist with him and they studied us for quit a while on how i used to behave with him and trust me on this IF THEY MIS BEHAVE THEY ARE SEEKING ATTENTION BAD OR GOOD so when you give in to the negative behavior guess what your feeding it and will continue so ignore the bad and praise the good. but most of all be consistant good rule of thumb 3 days to break a habit.



Also I was told these kids have very short attetion spans so when you are asking him or her to do something ask them to look at you in the eye because then you get their complete attention and dont ask him to do something that requires mult tasking because they can only do 1 thing at a time for instance don't ask them to go upstairs and put pyjamas on and go to bed they only hear go upstairs so thye go but dont know why they had to go upstairs!!!



he was also very destructive with all his toys and his sisters things so we had to remove all of his toys from his room.



food I must tell you this has an impact for him it was eggs and pasta and of course sugar.



but everyone reacts to different things.



but today he is well and works with cars taking them apart and putting them back together hahaha and has a stable job working at our local cable company. so there is a light at the end of the tunnel.



hope it was helpful!!

Kris - posted on 01/22/2009

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I read thru all the responses and want to add one thing...so many children are misdiagnosed!  Our second daughter (of six kids) was always TROUBLE from day one you could see she was wired differently.  I believe each of mine have ADD to some extent and display it in different ways.  Homeschooling has allowed us the ability to teach our children to direct their energies into something positive.  Yes, we have done the med route when we had some self-esteem and failing school issues, but found our childrn soon developed immunity to the benefits and we were back at square one (reason for pulling them out of school).  Check out Central Auditory Processing Disorder.  I know when I googled this I said Yes!  to every symptom checker, while ADD/HD wasn't all inclusive.  There is treatments to help children...you can read, "why can't my child behave", look in to pediatric occupational therapy, visual development therapy and of course the CAPD that I mentioned earlier.  Good luck and God bless!

Erin - posted on 01/22/2009

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My stepson is 7 and for a while ive thought he had ADHD.  Smart Kid, loves to learn but i noticed early on his attention span and frustration come homework time.  Kindegarden wouldnt test him because he was a young Kindergardner.  First grade i had great communication with his teacher.  We wrote back and forth all the time.  She shared the same concerns that i did in his learning and fidgeting in the classroom and attention.  I had him tested through the school and all his testing came back average or above.  Therefore they told me he was not ADHD.  Learning has never been the problem. I was not satisfied with their response and went to our Pediatrician who reviewed all the tests and agreed that more testing should be done.  We went to the neurologist and low and behold ADHD.  Schools are not willing to make the diagnosis becuase its an expense to them especially if your child would need an IEP, which mine does not.  He takes medicine daily and has helped him alot.  Its trial and error to find the right dosing but worth it.    Hope this helps!

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Tried caffeine? Caffeine with as little sugar as possible will help your daughter focus and calm her if she really has ADHD. We used Starbucks double shot when we were on the go. I don't remommend it as a regimine, but it got my son by at times before we broke down and did the whole medical thing. We fought the formal diagnoses and medication for years. Finally in the 5th grade, it was becoming very obvious that the consequences of impulsiveness and distracting behavior were directly effecting the self-esteem of our son. I'm a researcher by heart and believe me, I exhausted all resources on the subject. We had him tested by his pediatrician and put on medication. The first one worked behavior wise, but affected his eating and lowered his immune system. We changed to concerta and it has been a Godsend! My son thought in the 8th grade he wanted to try life without it. He went off in July and by Christmas, he was begging to be put back on it. It made him feel more in control. He slept much better on the medicine also, so he became more rested. Different meds work for different kids. If your kid is truly ADHD, there is help. Go to the chadd.org website for tons of insight.

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Quoting Laura:

Hi Livi,
I am a special education teacher and have been for 25 years. An informal way to see if your gut is right is to give your daughter about 2 oz of Mt. Dew. If it hypes her more she's probably just an active little girl who needs a little more structure to her day with built in sensory breaks. Activities should be kept to no more than 10-15 minutes. If it calms her down, ( because kids with ADHD have the opposite effect), then a visit to your doctor would be in order. Doc can run a check list and give an official diagnostic.



I would suggest this be diet moutain dew, since sugar has an energizing effect. 



 



(And for those who think this is weird, realize that traditional ADHD medications are stimulants, has is caffeiene.)

Lisa - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi I have 3 sons with ADHD and yes they are a handful I agree. These kids get bored easily and need more stimulating than other kids if there is anything pacific you would like to know let me know and I will try my best to help I have learned a lot in the past 10 years.

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One of my sons doctor ordered a sleep study of my son because he wasn't sleeping well. Turns out, we were referred to a neurologist. The neurologist diagnosed my son with RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome). It appears that this is highly mis-diagnosed as ADHD in children. My son was extremely hyper during the day and evening as well. The neurologist said that his hyperactivtiy was due to his lack of sleep. Children who have a lack of sleep can become hyper during the day. My son is now on neurotin every night before bed and he is sleeping much better and he is no longer hyper-active during the day. Before I would put your child on medication for ADHD, I would definitely look into whether or not your child has RLS.



I did some research on this as well. The Mayo Clinic in Minnesota just did a complete study of this as well. It is eerie to think that children are being labeled with ADHD when they could simply have RLS. Good luck to you.

Laura - posted on 01/20/2009

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Hi Livi,
I am a special education teacher and have been for 25 years. An informal way to see if your gut is right is to give your daughter about 2 oz of Mt. Dew. If it hypes her more she's probably just an active little girl who needs a little more structure to her day with built in sensory breaks. Activities should be kept to no more than 10-15 minutes. If it calms her down, ( because kids with ADHD have the opposite effect), then a visit to your doctor would be in order. Doc can run a check list and give an official diagnostic.

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wow! what a minefield of responses! i have a almost 6 yr old who used to be quite manic..after a couple of years of trying to manage him, we almost had him medicated..then after more visits to a naturopath found he was salicylate intolerant...changed his diet and hey presto i had a boy that could focus and be still! please, please...trust your instinct and explore every avenue that you can first..you may find an answer in a place you last expect. not knocking parents who go down the medication road, but use your better judgement at every turn and read into indigo and crystal children...it gave me alot of answers about my boy and understanding..sometimes our babies are smarter than us adults give them credit for..but above all, good luck and remember..you have made it this far!

Judy - posted on 01/20/2009

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I have two daughters with ADHD. Both were diagnoised at almost 7. We have used medication and it was truly a godsend. My older duaghter was able to advance about 2 grade levels in reading in less than 2 months once she was medicated (and reading tutor twice a week). She is now a college freshman.

Veronica - posted on 01/20/2009

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there is a book called "Optimum nutrition for the mind" and they have chapter of children with ADHD and other issues related, this book is a great tool for anyone to understand and recommendation in a natural way to promote health and understand what AHD really is and please whatever you do dont settle with drugs especially Ritalin, doctors will not tell you the many side effects it has and how it is just as potent as cocaine.

Gayle - posted on 01/20/2009

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Through a lot of research, I have discovered that ADHD is an accurate diagnosis only 3% of the time.  Get hold of a book by Dr. Frank Lawless - he's an expert in ADHD and he feels that a lot of the problem is sleep deprivation and diet - kids eat WAY too much sugar and fat, and getting them eating properly helps a LOT.  Also, these kids seem to be incredibly intelligent and their needs are not being met in school.  Go to the website allkindsofminds.org.  Dr. Levine has done research showing that kids have different ways of processing learning and the public school system is not meeting those needs (especially since we have changed NOTHING in our educational system in the past 50+ years!).  And, trust your instincts - moms are uncanny.

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hi christina, my son takes 2mg of melatonin each night half hour before bedtime, its not a medicine apparently as melatonin is naturally found in the body, but he seems to be lacking it it just calms him down a little before bed, i usually dont give it over the weekend as he has sleepovers etc and you can see the difference!

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I have an 8 year old son who was just recently diagnosed with ADHD. We went through all the appropriate testing with a neurologist first to see if he had ADHD. We do not use any medication on him. HIs teachers say he is doing well in school he just needs to get out of his seat every so often to stretch. At home, we give him a check off lists for his morning and bedtime routines. That really seems to help alot. I would suggest taking your child for testing to see if he really does have ADHD so the teachers can help. Behavior modification works great with our son. Good luck

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Also, I might add, I have a 5-year-old son that is now in kindergarten (same teacher even) and he's always been active and what I considered hyper .. but he doesn't have an ounce of trouble sitting in the classroom, paying attention, staying out of trouble like his sister did.  She began to hate going to school because she knew she was going to get in trouble because of her inability to control herself.  After the meds began, she did a complete 180 and rarely gets in trouble and absolutely LOVES school!!!



The thought had crossed our minds that was this just to benefit us or mostly her ... as we thought harder and decided to try it, we now see that it benefits her WAY more than it does us!!  She can actually learn at school, play sports (and be a key player on the teams) and stay out of  trouble everywhere (school, home, church)!!!

User - posted on 01/19/2009

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Also, I might add, I have a 5-year-old son that is now in kindergarten (same teacher even) and he's always been active and what I considered hyper .. but he doesn't have an ounce of trouble sitting in the classroom, paying attention, staying out of trouble like his sister did.  She began to hate going to school because she knew she was going to get in trouble because of her inability to control herself.  After the meds began, she did a complete 180 and rarely gets in trouble and absolutely LOVES school!!!



The thought had crossed our minds that was this just to benefit us or mostly her ... as we thought harder and decided to try it, we now see that it benefits her WAY more than it does us!!  She can actually learn at school, play sports (and be a key player on the teams) and stay out of  trouble everywhere (school, home, church)!!!

User - posted on 01/19/2009

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I have an 11 yr. old with ADHD. The best thing to do is to get her evaluated by a doctor. I know when Jimmy was diagnosed with ADHD his doctor had us fill a survey and had his teachers fill out a survey so he can see from all points of views where he lies for diagnosing. He had all the symptoms of ADHD. They put him on focalin XL and it seems to be working. It treatable. But you should get her to a doctor.

Tara - posted on 01/19/2009

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If she cannot sit more then five minutes, tends to fidgets a lot, is really settled by television or vidio games. Her moods swing from one thing to the next. I can go on and on about the symptoms of ADHD. There is a wide spectrum of ADHD so she may fall into it.

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i recently had to talk to my dr about my 2 year old son which is the same way they referred me to a child study center gave me numbers and addresses to get him checked for it .

Crystal - posted on 01/19/2009

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Before they put her on any pills change her diet and add fish oil. Yea that sounds bad but it worked with my now 9 year old.

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one more thing, if you choose to put your child on ADHD or adderall what ever the doc decides would be best for your child, your child will have a hard time coming down from the meds at nite, the med is like a extended release type of med and she would have to have some other type of drug to help her sleep, if not your world would be more uncontrollable than what you think it is now.. Just a helpful hint...

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Reading your subject, I think it would be too early to say she may have ADHD, I have a 6 six year old some and he too is a handfull. They are just curious kids that are interested into anything and everything, I thought the same question too, but however it is it is always mommy know's best. I even think as a child I had ADHD, I think all of us at one point in life had it, we just didn't have the pill popper to take back then for doctor's to give us.. They are going to be handful, full of life, explorers of the unknown and we as mother's should just let them be the person and personality they have it is a good thing... All the side affects of ADHD, now my opinion only is just another way for parents to pop a pill in their child's mouth to benefit the parent of a child being a child. that kind of medicine is not really good for children, their personality changes, it stunts their growth, could make them unsocialable and there is so much more. I know that all meds can have side affects, but at a kids age that u and I have, wait, let them find them selves.. Hyper is just a typical personality that a child has, my thirteen year old daughter was the same way, she has totally grown out of it and I love her personality, she though has her ups and downs but that is what we adults have too.. take it slow with your little one, study more about ADHD, doctors are so for ADHD, once you get them started on it they will have to continue that for who knows how long.. Doctors love to make money and collect insurance payments on this kind of stuff, it's like they want to diagnose kids with that certain ADHD when they really don't need it. She is 6 let her be six, whether she is a handful and hyper, that is what us parents got into when we had our choice to have kids, does that make since.. I hope I helped you in some was, just take it slow...

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