My daughter is convinced she's gay. I don't know how to deal with this. Anyone have any advice?


Lacye - posted on 01/15/2013




What exactly is it you are having trouble dealing with? Is it the fact that she's gay or you are worried she will be ostracized or what?

Just remember that she is still the same person she has always been. She just prefers the same sex rather than the opposite.


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Lady Heather - posted on 01/15/2013




You can't make someone gay so no "failure" on your part. She's still the daughter you know and love. She just likes the ladies instead of the dudes. If she wants to have kids, she can still have them. My lesbian friend has a beautiful little 2 year old daughter and they are working on a second. :)

Food for thought:

Lacye - posted on 01/15/2013




Hon I can tell you now that you will have grandchildren. My niece is a lesbian and she has a daughter. I don't see where you failed because being gay has nothing to do with you personally. It is who she is as a person. But I agree with what another mom on here said, you might want to seek counseling. Either that or join one of the LGTB pages on Facebook. Learn more about what it means to be homosexual. It's not a bad thing. One of my favorite pages is Wipeout Homophobia on Facebook. I'll put the link on here. They have many pictures of families that have either two moms or two dads. Either that page or Have a Gay Day. Both are really great.

Amy - posted on 01/15/2013




Well I think your thinking is a little outdated, there are lots of gay couples eho get married and adopt or have children of their own. Also her being gay has nothing to do with you as a mom, I hope you are able to work through your feelings to support her.

Billie Jo - posted on 01/15/2013




I think you need to seek some counseling maybe even for both of you (you to figure out where you stand and why and for her to work through any feelings she has). If she says she is gay then take it at face value for now.

What makes you think you will never have grandchildren? You do realize that gay/lesbian people all over the world DO have children (and not just through adoption).

Heather - posted on 01/15/2013




Having trouble dealing with the feeling I failed as a mother. I will never get to baby sit grandchildren. She's my only child and I feel really disgusted. At her at myself not sure.

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